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How does he think I manage it?!

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18 Aug 12 #350317 by mumtoboys
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Nearly 4 years since we separated, for the first time this week, the ex is taking the children for 2 whole weeks whilst I complete a course which will allow me to start a PGCE a couple of days after it finishes (all a bit rushed!). I need to pass so I am giving over all responsibility of the children and living at the university for 2 weeks, rather than travelling to and from on a daily basis. I have known I will be taking this course since the end of May. I asked the ex then if he could help out. He said he would be happy to. So he''s had 3 months to think about what he needs to do, who needs to be where, when etc. etc. etc......

During the last 4 years, I have juggled and juggled and juggled the children, their activities, my work (and my not working), fitted in I don''t know how many of his holidays (usually at short notice), weekends away and general changing around of contact. I managed when he went AWOL for 15 months and whilst I might mutter about it every now and again, it''s just what has to be done, isn''t it?!

Ex stood on my doorstep yesterday and bemoaned how difficult it was going to be to fit it all in and juggle it about....2 weeks in 4 years and he''s moaning about it and asking if he can send them to my mum whilst I''m away....!! How on earth does he think I manage it?!!!! I haven''t stopped laughing so thought I''d share!

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18 Aug 12 #350319 by spooky
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Thank you for giving me a Saturday morning chucle:lol:

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18 Aug 12 #350341 by Action
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And the really funny thing is him admitting that he''ll struggle.

When my ex left he asked me to give him an ironing lesson, and how he should go about getting curtains for his rented house. Pathetic!!!!

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18 Aug 12 #350408 by downland
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Funniest I got was being told that he had taken some VERY smelly fish out of fridge and wrapped it up in the bin as it was bin day.

''Recycling only today'' says I.

''What?'' says he.

''Recycling only no black bags this week'' says I.

''How long has that been going on?'' asks he.

''About 2 years'' says I.

When a man don''t even know what rubbish goes out well it just proves he should have treated the maid service a whole lot better - lol.

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18 Aug 12 #350411 by soulruler
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| Know it isn''t exactly the same but literally the only thing I missed physically when ex departed was him putting the bin out.

Oh well there are more important issues on the agenda right now - men are always driven by the same thing - easy to comply as long as you as a woman get what you want out of it.

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19 Aug 12 #350432 by WhiteRose
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Part of me is thinking - good on ya for getting on with the daily struggles and juggles life has thrown your way in the past 4 years.

The other part of me is thinking - hope he gets a taste of it for 2 weeks and then can truly appreciate what you do.

Just wrote (then deleted) ''Fingers Crossed'' and ''Good Luck'' - standard sentiments I suppose, but both seem to negate the amount of hard work you''ve put in to your studies and its your sheer determination and brain power that has got you here - but don''t really know how to put that into a concise statement.


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19 Aug 12 #350471 by fairylandtime
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You say "how does he think" & that''s it right there .... He doesn''t think .. Things just happen & he tags Long, thinking of others is just one thing that a lot of men don''t do.

Make sure you turn your phone off & when ringing to say night to the kids just think its only 2 weeks & you need this for your studies, future etc etc don''t let anyone stop you you have come so far.


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