Nearly 4 years since we separated, for the first time this week, the ex is taking the children for 2 whole weeks whilst I complete a course which will allow me to start a PGCE a couple of days after it finishes (all a bit rushed!). I need to pass so I am giving over all responsibility of the children and living at the university for 2 weeks, rather than travelling to and from on a daily basis. I have known I will be taking this course since the end of May. I asked the ex then if he could help out. He said he would be happy to. So he''s had 3 months to think about what he needs to do, who needs to be where, when etc. etc. etc......
During the last 4 years, I have juggled and juggled and juggled the children, their activities, my work (and my not working), fitted in I don''t know how many of his holidays (usually at short notice), weekends away and general changing around of contact. I managed when he went AWOL for 15 months and whilst I might mutter about it every now and again, it''s just what has to be done, isn''t it?!
Ex stood on my doorstep yesterday and bemoaned how difficult it was going to be to fit it all in and juggle it about....2 weeks in 4 years and he''s moaning about it and asking if he can send them to my mum whilst I''m away....!! How on earth does he think I manage it?!!!! I haven''t stopped laughing so thought I''d share!
Part of me is thinking - good on ya for getting on with the daily struggles and juggles life has thrown your way in the past 4 years.
The other part of me is thinking - hope he gets a taste of it for 2 weeks and then can truly appreciate what you do.
Just wrote (then deleted) ''Fingers Crossed'' and ''Good Luck'' - standard sentiments I suppose, but both seem to negate the amount of hard work you''ve put in to your studies and its your sheer determination and brain power that has got you here - but don''t really know how to put that into a concise statement.