Well this time last year I was getting ready to move out of the family home and start life on my own (the family dog came with me)!!
Having just spent the first xmas as a seperated man, it is time to reflect on the situation.
I had my 2 boys for xmas which made it so much easier for me, to see them xmas morning and my youngest reminding me xmas eve, "dad we forgot to put a glass of milk and carrot out for santa"
The hardest thing was taking them back on boxing day!!
My ex met someone a couple of months after the split, we are trying mediation to sort out finance, I have kept to our arrangement for the children, have made every payment via the csa for the boys, even sorted 2 payments they failed to pay my ex, just so she did'nt go short.
It has been a really hard thing to deal with, but as time went on, things got better and realising that ok, we were not meant to be, but we have 2 great boys and finaly life is getting back to normal.
Thats great to hear easydoms no matter what your boys come first as they should , the kids are the innocent victims in the mess.Maybe you could tell my ex that he has 2 wonderful children that he does'nt want to bother with anymore or pay for their upbringing.Sad for him he is going to miss the best years of their lives as once they've gone you can't get them back.I hope 1 day my life can get back to normal whatever is classed as normal.