What about us?

I am married to someone who divorced 10 years ago. We married 8 years ago and have a son of 6. My husband pays nearly £1000 per month maintenance to his ex wife. Who to be fair has the children, she has a mortgage free house and works. She should be working full time by now because the children are 17 and 22, but she chooses not to because she would lose her tax credits which means her income is not subject to CSA assessment. We would like to go back to court to try and get a Clean Break or at least an end date to the court order, as our son is getting older and his needs are greater. My fear is that when we went before and got a small reduction in the maintenance the judge was quite addemant that my son is irrelevant and does not come into the equation which I found to be not only hurtful but quite unfair. Is there any pressident for this sort of thing or is it just the case that the second family just don't count. I work full time why should'nt she.

why are you paying £1000 per month for one child, its way to much look on the csa website for there calander, as for her not working she should be being chased by the dwp to get a job, and how come shes living mortgage free? shes lapping it up living the life of rielly at your expense with no contribution from herself, time to pull back the purse strings i would say

We pay that much because thats what the court says we have to pay. We pay it in two parts 550.00 for his son through the CSA and 450 to her for maintenance. His son is 18 now and starting university this year so CSA will stop but then we will go back to paying her the full amount because she has a court order that says thats what we have to pay. You and I both know she should be working and it should be full time I have to and I have a 7 year old. She has manipulated the whole system, with her vicious lies. We pay all this money and yesterday my husband gets a call from the CSA to say he has £2,100 of arrears thats accrued since last July so from there calculations we have underpaid them by 300 for the last 7 months (I wish).

have you been in touch with NACSA its on the internet, its a system that basically works in favour for the father (for a change). they help deal with csa issues mainly, has she another partner as im sure that if she has a partner you dont have to pay her maintainance. also if you both have a child together your payments should be reduced, oh something else i thought of, if your paying 550 for the younger child you could instead buy goods to that amount for that child example clothes ect, keep the receipts as they are proof that you have paid, that way she doesn't get the money herself csa cant do anything either but it is going where its intended and will undoubtedly upset her, the whole system makes me sick aswell,

No she does not have another partner and if she did would never admit to it. If we ought stuff to the value of the 550 we would still have to pay her the same 1,000 because she has the court order and her level of maintenance is nett of the CSa assessment so we pay the CSA whatever amounbt they want from us and her the bablance to make it 1,000 if we paid the CSA 200 we would have to pay her the other 800. Its a crock of a system. But we are going to fight it this year, we can't afford it anymore, work is tight money is tight, but the courts aren't interested in us. And my son and I don't exist in the courts eyes.