The problem at the moment with this "Life after Divorce" forum is most people on here are at the start of the divorce process, all looking for answers to the questions that keep them all awake at night! Maybe in a year or so when everything is (HOPEFULLY) done and dusted then people can begin to show their " Life after Divorce" stories.
There is life after divorce but it seems, too many, a long way off and no one on this horrible path can see beyond, whats affecting them right now.
My own circumstances are that I got divorced from my husband of 14 years married and 23 years of being together, some 5 years ago, in actual fact it was a smooth process, with no complications from anyone and we remain extremely good friends to this day. After all he is the father of my children and I'm the mother of his children. How can people turn so bitter against one another when they have been so intimate?
But...... now i'm married again and can see clearly where relationships go so wrong and turn sooooooooooooo nasty.
I love my new husband and we, at times, have been so happy, the only thing preventing us from living a perfect happy life is his ex wife, who simply can not accept he's moved on in life and actually fell in love! This is, despite the fact she had numerous affairs, left my husband for another man, when the money ran out from that relationship, found another one and still continues to live with him. She left my husband with the care of the kids,and left him with all their debts, because she wanted to be "free"!
But two years after their divorce when I helped him pay off all THEIR debts, she decided now they were "debt free" to pursue him for anything he may of had left!
So for the past 3 years our lives at times, have been complete hell, its only worked for us because our love has been so strong.
We are nearing the end of this depressing foul path and now can see light at the end of the tunnel, I will be so happy when its finally done and dusted, my future seems bright and I'm actually excited when I think of where and what we will do.
I have so many plans and ideas that run through my mind, that at, times I feel I will explode.
I look forward to the time, this woman will be out of our lives forever, no longer will she have any sort of hold on my husband, that will be the hardest time for this woman, when she finally realises what has she got in life? Part of a pension? some cash lump sum? Will that finally make her happy? I doubt that very much.
Me? I might end up with no money, do I care? No! because I have what she wants and thats my mans LOVE!
Louise. Thanks for writing your message. Although my devoice is over and as been for almost three years I am dealing with the financial matters namely the house.
I have met someone and we are having a similar experiencing to you a biter ex wanting it all. You have given me hope that one day it will all end and a hope that any new partner or wife will value my love for her above all else.