this one is for juicymoon.
It takes two to make or break anything.You are not solely responsible for the failure of this marriage.
As for the attractiveness......it's how YOU feel.If someone has belittled you and made you feel bad about yourself,you must keep telling yourself that real friends love you for you,not an image.If you want to lose weight/have a makeover/get a pierced belly button(!) do it,but just for you,not someone else.And for goodness' sake,don't do it in the hope it will make everything ok in a relationship.I tried that. When I was slimmer,he was nicer.But,as all us seriel dieters know,sooner or later it comes back and more.Guess what happened to Mr Nice Guy? Which is why my "new best friend" is this website. This time, I will diet when I want to, which will be when he is out of the equation.He will be under no illusions then,who I have done it for! Until then,the one thing I can control is what I put in my mouth,self destructive I know,but there it is.I should have told him my weight was none of his business 20 years ago,but didn't.I tell my daughter if she only remembers one word of mummy's advice,let it be "DON'T SET A PRECEDENT" Juicymoon, - walk tall,smile and don't apologise for who you are. xxxx