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23 Jan 08 #11659 by kitten44
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husbands xw has started steps to take him back to court for more sm.cm ends in march as child 18
I am present wife of 4 years.have 13 yr old son by xh.
she has told other 2 kids(adults), that live with us, that she is thinking of dropping case as cant afford sol and court fees.
We want to go for disharge of maintenance.at present she gets £2k a month sm and cm £200 and says she cant manage. Have seen her bank statement and her income is £3,500 ( she works part time and gets benefits) Also she has on/off boyfriend who cohabits when together- this is dificult to prove.
Surely the case is worth us pursuing? We thought we could get a better deal especially if she wants to settle before court.
Any advice would be helpful to get this greedy xw out of our lives

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24 Jan 08 #11678 by gone1
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Hiya Kitten. I would think this is worth pursuing. But I would write to her telling her what you are about and see if she will accept a voluntary discharge. If she doesn't and fights it I would push for a costs award. If its true that she has this amount of income then she could release you from this order. But all people are not the same and she may fight you. But at least you will have a letter on your bundle that suggests that you have tried to settle matters without going to court. This can only be of help to you should the matter proceed to court. Go for it. Chris.

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24 Jan 08 #11786 by kitten44
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She had decided to go to court to ask for more sm and my husbands sol has told her sol we will be going for dischrge. She has still decided to pursue this. I think now reality has kicked in as her sols bills are beginning to arrive.
Her income is £3.5k pcm incluing sm- she has sent a bank statement !

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25 Jan 08 #11922 by IKNOWNOW
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Sorry, am I missing something here? All the children are now grown up but she gets £2k a month spousal maintenance; boy did I marry the wrong bloke. I have 5 children under 11 years old and my x2b is asking for a Clean Break (little assets to speak of really) even though I have a mortgage of £130K to pay. My solicitor suggested spousal maintenance till youngest was 7 years old, being reduced by a percentage when she was 5 years old and I could work part time. Sorry, is she unable to work full time to support herself? Also why is her spousal maintenance so high when the child maintenance is only £2oo?

Either your partner is being taken for a ride or I am or maybe both, who knows!

If the law allows this to go on then the law stinks.

Sorry for the rant, Sarah

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26 Jan 08 #11949 by kitten44
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The x works part time.If i was receiving £2k per month i wouldnt need to work full time either.
Durng the marriage they had a good standard of living and she argued that she should get sm to be kept in the same manor.
My husband has a good income but we are unable to get straight financially due to the high amount of sm
The law is soooooo wrong.
I have been told to declare my income on form E but i am refusing. It is of no relevance and none of her business. I am also refusing to have our marital home valued.:angry:

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26 Jan 08 #11950 by maggie
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What's your husband's net income k44?

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26 Jan 08 #11963 by kitten44
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Husbands net income is £200k

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