Life after a bad relationship

Hi everyone

Some of you will have seen my posts, mostly relating to the Ancillary Relief process and all relating to my obstructive ex-husband who has been languishing in the FMH for the past 4 years and 2 months - mortgage and rent free.

I've done a lot of bleating on here, so I thought I should also share some of the good aspects of the life I have lived since leaving the fmh.

Three and a half years ago I began surfing the Internet, trying to find ways of making new friends and looking, in particular, for a lady of similar age to me who was sick of going to the theatre and to concerts on her own. As I was taking lessons in scuba diving, I was also looking for a 'dive buddy'; I got nowhere!!

One day I was picking up a message on a schoolfriend site, from an old friend and saw that the site had a 'dating' sister-site. I was curious, so decided to take a look. I noticed that people could select 'looking for a woman for friendship', thought this site might suit my purpose, so constructed a profile for myself.

I was stunned to receive my first contact from a bisexual lady!!!!!!!! Yes, I can hear you all laughing from here... it was a DATING site after all, but it shows you how naiive I was!! As I had also received a message from an experienced male scuba diver, I changed my profile to 'looking for a man for friendship' and joined.

I have to say that dating sites are not for the feint hearted and I encountered a number of 'nasty pieces of work' and many who were using the site as an alternative for adult chat lines. I was stood up on several occasions by seemingly nice people and several men, who had sworn undying love for me, disappeared overnight - good job I didn't believe them!!! That being said, I had a fantastic time chatting to a great many lovely, genuine people and came to regard several of them as friends.

Three years ago I was invited to chat by a man who was living in Australia and we found that we had loads in common. Seven months later I came out here for what started off as one month's holiday with him, which then became three months and subsequently five months. At that point we decided we would marry when my divorce came through. Little did I know that the ex would be able to obstruct as much as he has done and that my divorce would drag out for so long.

Ive spent the past two years living between Australia and the UK, waiting to be in the position to remarry. I got my Absolute in May 2007 and, as anticipated I have had to apply for Ancillary Relief - this was done in December.

So, I'm getting married next Tuesday (19th Feb) to my soulmate!!!!

Congratulations

I'm just starting out on this journey, I have (almost) got over the intitial shock of discovering my H's infidelity....

Married for 19 years, dating since I was a teenager, it has come as quite a blow.

However it is heartwarming to hear your story - fantastic to hear that there are better times ahead...


Have a fantastic day on Tuesday, and a wonderful life ahead with your soulmate:)

Ha ha. Well it does show that it does work out. Good luck to you on Tuesday. Chris.

That's so lovely to read - sending you all the luck and love in the world for your new marriage!!

Deb x

Congratulations WornOut!

Do you still have the details of the bisexual lady please?

That's lovely! Wishing all the best for your wedding on Tuesday.

Rosie x

good on you Sheila . I hope you have a wonderful future.
Sallyanne