I summise your attitude to casual relationships is very similar to mine! Would add that whilst love is security it can only occur on a "2 way street", the partner has to recognise 'what love is' also. To love is to give unconditionally, to be in love is when two people give to each other unconditionally and consistently. To be alone in love is truly very destructuve though..............
Mummybear, you and me find ourselves asking the same question. I believe I have found love. He is the first thing I think of when I open my eyes and the last thing I think about when I close them and all the moments in bewtween. I love his whole being; my heart aches when we are apart. We just connect on so many levels. It is hard to explain but I don't think it can JUST be lust, the pain is too intense. Hope you find the answer you are seeking mummybear, and maybe if you can't then that is the answer. Let me know what you find out.
I think everyone will have a different answer but to me lust and love are so so different, Lust is fast,raw and furious with no building blokes involved and crumbles in time.
Love on the other hand is built slowly and gets stronger all the time(or should)Love is about so many things,Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day however big or small.
We are all on this site because of love or lust.
We have all been in love and lost out to lust!!!
I personally think as humans we need an eliment of both but its the fine tuning of the balance where we perhaps fail.
If you think about it when you 1st meet that someone it is lust at first..surely...But if its right the love is fed and grows by the right portions of lust, that is enough to balance but not destruct
I think love and lust and trust are the trinty to a good healthy relationship..... comments!
love you all...loobyX