I have not long gone through to a FH and just wondered if I could be of any help to you leading up to yours? I hope you don't mind me asking but who is driving it to a FH? I expect you have considerable legal bills up to this point having had the FDR (?). If you can continue to negotiate (you don't have to do that bit via a solicitor) then all the better.
My ex husband drove it to the bitter end. He would not part with any of his pension at all despite the fact that I had supported his financial career in order that he could build such a pension. I had offered him a lump sum and that he keep his substantial pension (which he claimed was worth "nothing"). In the end it cost him an 8,000 extra to go the full hearing and the judge made him part with almost half of it.
I got to the point when I felt that all this money had been spent on solicitors fees - he would not bend - and therefore I just went with it. I don't regret it but I did almost all the paperwork myself - even so it still cost the price of three good holidays which I would have rather taken the children on!