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Maiden name or keep married name?

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01 Aug 07 #1692 by JustH
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Hi,

Could anyone tell me if it is normal for a woman to revert back to her Maiden Name on divorce and how practical this would be..

Married 21 years, children 20 (boy) and 14 (girl).

Beginning to resent the man- he abandoned us- why would I keep his name

But then my children have that name

Any advice would be appreciated

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01 Aug 07 #1693 by DandyHighwayMan
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Hi Juicymoon,

Think it just comes down to personal choice. Been divorced 8 years now and still use married surname as my children also have that.
Personally I just like the 3 of us having the same "family" name rather than thinking of it as "his " name.
I have wondered what I would do if I were to marry again because we all like it that we are the same name.

I never liked my maden name anyhow so I didnt want to go back to that, but I do dislike the term Ms so I still go as Mrs.

Your own choice really.:)

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01 Aug 07 #1699 by herewegoagain
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I had my Maiden Name for 19 years, but my married one for 27, so had to weigh up the plus and minuses!

Pluses: 1)Son has same name, 2) my car registration connected to married name, would cost me to change it, 3)house name is linked to it, and nice plaque on the house outside, cost me to change it 4)probably annoys someone out there that I've never changed it, 5)has a nice ring to it! 6)its unusual, only 3 of us in this town!

Minuses couldn't think of any!

It's personal preference!

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01 Aug 07 #1700 by sexysadie
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I think it's quite common to revert to your Maiden Name and it's one way of telling the world that you have divorced without actually having to say so, which might avoid some otherwise uncomfortable situations.

I never took my husband's name in the first place, so I have avoided this issue. It means that the children and I have never shared a name. It generally only matters regarding schools (I just say I am X's mum when I phone them) and when my children's friends try to look us up in the phone book.

sadie

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02 Aug 07 #1703 by gone1
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My partner changed her name. Her ex husband remarried and she did not want to be associated with him anymore. It was dead easy. She did it online. Cost was £9.99 Chris

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02 Aug 07 #1712 by Gogg
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As the other comments it is really down to personal choice, I have decided to keep my married name, but have started to use Ms as Mrs makes me feel married when I am not.

As I have 2 children I didn't want to change anything that might upset them, or make them question things.

Gogg:P

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02 Aug 07 #1715 by herewegoagain
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I too use Ms, as I no longer feel a Mrs. And to be honest Mrs makes me feel old, when I'm now single, and I feel a sense of freedom that I haven't had in years! Get out and enjoy life!

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