Went on just one date, fell madly in love, been together 18 months.
Beautiful house, happy children....all good
Try Match Affinity bit expensive but no loons.
Only problem is when people ask, how did you meet? But I think that stigma isn''t that bad anymore.
Meeting people through words is kind of romantic, very 18th century.
Certainly better than p***ed
Go for it
I tried the pay sites to start with and POF and freedating. What I found was the same people occupied all of them. You would see the same people time and time again.
There are a lot of players on dating sites. They are usually married. Or bored or both. But of course there are a lot of normal people that are looking to meet someone. But its sorting the wheat from the chaff thats the problem. Problem with the pay sites is the amount of time you are a member. But actualy that isnt a problem. If you are new, you get pinged to death. And you should get some dates pretty quickly. So you dont need to be on there long.
What I also found is that people look at the forums a lot. And if you post there, you tend to get pinged a lot also. Thats cos people are doing the same as you. Trying to sort the wheat from the chaff.
What I recommend is that you try the free ones first. See how you get on. Establish yrself. Go on a few dates but be careful. If they give you the phone number and say things like, only ring me at a certain time or when you do ring and the phone is not off and they answer and clearly are going out the door to answer the phone, then there is clearly something that is not right. Or the phone is clearly a PAYG phone and they look dead posh. Another give away.
Essentialy, I know this sounds daft. But people that are single act single and will be warey of you and will once they get to know you, let you know where they live and you can have the phone number and they will answer and there will be none of this cloak and dagger "dont contact me at certain times".
Lastly, some people put pictures up that are about 20 years out of date. And you feel a bit disappointed when you meet them that they look nothing like there picture. Some of it of course is that people dont look like there picture. Thats fair enough. I am a suspicious old bug*er and if someone lies about the picture, what else are they fibbing about? But thats just me.
Very lastly. Tell someone where your going and check in on the 1st toilet break. You never know who you are meeting and always meet in a public place the 1st time.
Very lastly... I did date someone that was married once. I didnt know she was. Someone I know told me she was. I was very upset that I was conned in this way and of course she got herself dumped right away and it did knock my confidence a bit for a while. Just dont let this be you. C.
I agree with Marshy... I tried 5 dates with Match.com (5 different people, no one made it to a 2nd date!). In 2 years on POF, I didn''t find a single person I wanted to meet. Everyone seemed to have a ''shopping list''... But that''s just my experience, I know a number of people who met their ideal partner this way.
The problem for me? There is way too much expectation because you know you are both ''looking'' for a partner. I guess I''m old fashioned, I prefer to be friends first.
Maybe that''s why I''m about to marry my friend
But if you think it''s worth a try, go for it. Then you can come back to this thread and let us know your experience.