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19 Mar 12 #318973 by livinginhope
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I haven''t tried it,one reason being that I''m still officially married,but have 2 friends happily married to partners they met via Dating Sites.It can be very difficult to meet people if you don''t work with lots of people of the opposite sex to you so it probably is worth trying.
As has been said just be careful but that also applies to whoever you meet and wherever you meet them.I recently met someone in a Tai Chi class who said he was in love with me after a few weeks of attendance and we hadn''t even been out for a coffee together.Did I think he was genuine,not for one second,I was convinced he was a nut case:lol:

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23 Mar 12 #319784 by lozzsa21
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I''ve tried it, and in all honesty I can''t say whether it''s good or bad. The first guy I met I wasn''t ready, so finished it pretty quick. The second guy I met was great, kept telling me I was perfect etc etc, met his kids, then he turned round and said he didn''t know what he wanted. Only thing is you have some sort of expectation I guess at the beginning - and I don''t care what anyone says, I can''t meet someone unless I like the look of them.

I don''t know how else to meet anyone to be honest, is it any different to meeting in a pub? Doubt it.

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24 Mar 12 #319799 by Young again
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Hi Iozzsa21,

I suggest you keep in touch with the guy you met who said he didn''t know what he wanted.

That sort of openness and honesty right up front on a first date is, to me, one sign of an open and honest character. H isn''t pretending to know it all, to have some grand plan, to make decisions for you or you and him.

He sounds good to me.

Best Wishes

YA

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24 Mar 12 #319800 by ponygal44
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Hello
It''s very difficult to meet new people when you are older and do not have the opportunity to meet new people through work or social events. have met people through shared friends, just in a bar, from stopping in the street to admire his dog and then recognising him on a dating site, to a straightforward random meet on a dating site. All of these people were really great and were important in my life, although I am still single! I am currently "corresponding" with a man on POF, I enjoy the friendship we are developping and although I realise that until I meet him it will remain an artificial friendship, I am not ready to meet him and have to make the decision as to whether there is "something there". Does that make sense? I have seen recent photos and find his appearance pleasant and so when writing I can imagine the person I am talking to although having never met I cannot really know him. It is working for me at the moment because I am not ready to meet anyone new but at least I know that no matter what happens, when we do meet we will already have an established friendship which will help greatly to break the ice and if there is no attraction I may be a little disappointed but will still appreciate our correspondence. Everyone is different but this is working for me at the moment and I wasn''t looking for anything in particular anyway.

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24 Mar 12 #319825 by happyagain
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I married my internet date last October:)
I went on a few dates with other unsuitables first but I was his first date. We met on match and it really was love at first sight! We were both ''officially'' married at the time although both separated and have now been together 3.5 years.
My husband''s brother also married his internet date last year!
Its like anywhere you meet, you''ll meet married people / nutters / con artists in bars, workplaces, etc. The good thing about match for me was that you can have a search criteria. It was important for me to meet someone with children and with a steady job. That might not be everyone''s recipe for success but it worked for me.

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24 Mar 12 #319834 by MissTish1
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Before I met my husband (not on a dating site), I did enrollment with Plenty of Fish and met a few nice guys. I met some that I wasn''t attracted to aswell, but that''s how it goes. I think the advantage of internet dating is that you can get to know the person a little before meeting them, something you don''t get the chance to do when you''re picked up in a bar!

Of course safety has to come first, and you should always tell someone where you''re going and with whom, but meeting anyone you don''t know could be dangerous, so I don''t think that danger is increased internet dating.

I know a fair few who have met the loves of their lives on the internet, so it can work ;)

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24 Mar 12 #319914 by lozzsa21
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YA - I totally get what you''re saying. But perhaps I wasn''t too clear. We had about 7 dates, he was quite ''all for it'' telling me I was everything he wanted etc, talking about looking at bigger cars for if things progressed so we could take all the kids out together etc etc. I went over and had Sunday dinner with him and his kids. Things were moving along nicely I thought. Then suddenly the day after I met the kids, bam he woke up fretting and didn''t know what he wanted. I''m not great with being ignored, which he had done, so I''d been a bit stroppy. Still in touch on facebook and if I''m honest I still think he''s lovely and genuine, that''s the problem. He wouldn''t really say what the problem was. He''d been on his own 8 years and had a fantastic relationship with his kids which I really admired, I guess he just wasn''t sure about blending everything together to be honest.

I''ve gone on match as I really didn''t get on with POF, but I''m not sure it''s any different. Think I might just resign myself to being single.

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