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22 Nov 07 #7419 by Altafica
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I have learnt that............nobody can be trusted, even the ones that are closest to you. Dont let one person have complete control over things, especially the finances!!:angry:Whatever you are going through, make sure your children are coping, whatever their age.
And the good side, I have learnt............Im not an idiot, a leech, a waste of space, a punchbag, a bad mother/wife or a fat bitch (well maybe the last one, the fat bit..well I prefer a few extra pounds);)I have learnt that I am a stronger person, a person who has got friends, and the best thing I have learnt is I DONT NEED HIM !:woohoo:

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22 Nov 07 #7421 by scottishlady
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Well said Altafica...
I applaud you !!!!!

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23 Nov 07 #7430 by carys1972@aol.com
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I totally agree about the violece and fortunately attitudes are slowly changing and recognising domestic abuse carried by women on their male partners. I'm a criminal solicitor and have in the last 10 years seen at least 100 percent increase
in the number of men feeling they can make a complaint and not being classed as a wimp. I myself was in a violent marriage and even though I am a criminal lawyer I never reported it.

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23 Nov 07 #7431 by carys1972@aol.com
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I totally agree about the violece and fortunately attitudes are slowly changing and recognising domestic abuse carried by women on their male partners. I'm a criminal solicitor and have in the last 10 years seen at least 100 percent increase
in the number of men feeling they can make a complaint and not being classed as a wimp. I myself was in a violent marriage and even though I am a criminal lawyer I never reported it.

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23 Nov 07 #7435 by carys1972@aol.com
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I was very moved by the pain u seem to b suffering in contemplation of your ex not allowing to see your kidz again if there is absolutely no justifiable reason for doing so. In fact its disgusting but believe me your kidz will eventually work this out and your ex will b the loser not u. All I can say is to keep trying to see them. They need u so much. Try calling and sending letters but if u suspect these r being intercepted and your x will not facilitate contact u have no choice other than to go to court and have them order terms of contact. Alternatively b4 doing that u may wish to approach family mediation who have a good reputation of making agreements between couples whose relationship has completely broken down.

So in all even if she puts obstacles in your way do whatever u can to fight for your rights as a parent and then at least if your ex lies about u leaving and not caring etc u have something tangible to show them how u love and care for them and tried to see them. Believe me such info can make or break a young person and essentially if they think one parent does not care that can fuck them up forever. Sad but true so please follow your heart and never give up, xxx best of luck

My ex was violent but I would never deprive them of a relationship with their dad as I am absolutely sure he would not hurt them in anyway.

I feel for you and wish u the best of luck xx

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23 Nov 07 #7445 by carys1972@aol.com
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some people can be trusted well at least for me My family and 2 best friends who would put their life on the line for me but as far partners or husbands go I totally agree u cannot foresee how nasty these things get but lets face it its usually over money!!

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23 Nov 07 #7447 by loobyloo
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Carys..... when do you sleep.
I agree not eveyone is twisted and underhanded and damn right inhumane!!!! just the odd x2b ha ha
It is money that changes people for sure and in my case the financial side upsets my x2b more than the fact i dvorced him and left with the kids..... whom he has disowned i might add
looby x

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