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What lessons have you learned

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23 Nov 07 #7456 by Altafica
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There are a few people that I trust, Mum, Daughter, couple of close friends, but as has been said, if ever there was another partner (one that lived in his own house, washed his own socks, cleared up his own mess) then I dont think I could ever 100% trust him. I would like to think there was a chance, but then I thought that after 28yrs only to be totally shocked by somebody who I thought right up to the day he dropped the bomb was my soulmate.:angry:

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23 Nov 07 #7457 by Altafica
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There are a few people that I trust, Mum, Daughter, couple of close friends, but as has been said, if ever there was another partner (one that lived in his own house, washed his own socks, cleared up his own mess) then I dont think I could ever 100% trust him. I would like to think there was a chance, but then I thought that after 28yrs only to be totally shocked by somebody who I thought right up to the day he dropped the bomb was my soulmate.:angry:

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23 Nov 07 #7463 by gone1
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I totally agree about the violece and fortunately attitudes are slowly changing and recognising domestic abuse carried by women on their male partners. I'm a criminal solicitor and have in the last 10 years seen at least 100 percent increase
in the number of men feeling they can make a complaint and not being classed as a wimp. I myself was in a violent marriage and even though I am a criminal lawyer I never reported it.


Blimey. Somebody actually knows that men are beaten by there wives. I have never seen anyone admit or comment on here before. I reported the abuse and all the other stuff and I was interviewed by 2 officers from Hampshire constabulary. I had the distinct feeling that they didnt believe me.

They wanted to interview my ex and her boyfriend and explained to me that I may in fact be arrested. I had to drop the case in the end. Chris

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23 Nov 07 #7469 by Specialdad
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Well Chris the police have to arrest someone!!

They seem totally incapable of arresting the actual criminals and keeping the streets safe for everyone else. ;)

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23 Nov 07 #7509 by braveheart
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What have I learned?

a) Make sure that if you are having an affair ensure your pass code to your mobile phone is a bit more original than 0000

b) delete all those lovely-dovey texts so they cannot be used as incriminating evidence.

b) If you are going to lie, then make it believable

c) not all men are fools

these are really lessons my stbx wife learned not me....useful all the same.

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23 Nov 07 #7511 by paperbackwriter
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Lessons I've learned...?

If I knew before I married him, the things I've learned about him since leaving him, I'd never have walked down the aisle.

hindsight is a fabulous thing, but oh God, it's so true!!

the other thing I've learned is that there is always someone you can trust; in most cases it's probably yourself

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23 Nov 07 #7512 by TMax
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OH thank you, :-)
well not all men who are able to do all things for themselves are unfaithful your off my christmas card list hehehe. :-)

To the opposite of this I would say never marry the youngest of the family theyve never had to put a single thing togther and are unable to cook because theyve been looked after. X was reading the instructions on a time of beans when I walked into the kitchen.

Also see your inlaws first before you marry your future partner may turn out like them, I never saw mine till 2 years later no wonder I was kept away, the drink they put away would put a rough soldier to shame.

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