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What lessons have you learned

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10 Dec 07 #8775 by Shelia
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I have learned you don't know what is round the corner.

That 2008 is going to be MY year.

That I need to wear socks in bed cos there is no one to warm my feet on, but I prefer to wear the socks.

That I can put screenwasher in the car.

I am capable, I am a good person, after years of being made to feel worthless.

That it is peaceful living on my own

That even when my life does not go to plan, it is my life and it belongs to me, and I can run it my own way.

That wikivorce is an excellent site

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10 Dec 07 #8779 by NonMolest
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what i learnt is never evar married to indian woman

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11 Dec 07 #8797 by gone1
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Shelia wrote:

I have learned you don't know what is round the corner.

That 2008 is going to be MY year.

That I need to wear socks in bed cos there is no one to warm my feet on, but I prefer to wear the socks.

That I can put screenwasher in the car.

I am capable, I am a good person, after years of being made to feel worthless.

That it is peaceful living on my own

That even when my life does not go to plan, it is my life and it belongs to me, and I can run it my own way.

That wikivorce is an excellent site


Good for you that you can do these things. I hope in time you see that your ex was trying to control you by telling you these bad things. Its designed to keep you in your place. Keep the successes going. The more successful you are the more confident you will become. Chris.

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18 Dec 07 #9184 by ToxieDogg
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Another thing I've learned is not to tell your partner about too many skeletons in your family closet even if you think you are absolutely 1000% sure that you can trust them or that they won't leave you. Even if you're not at all to blame for whatever it is that you're telling them about, that won't stop them from using it as ammunition against you if problems arise and mudslinging starts. And it's always the things like that which hurt the most. :(

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18 Dec 07 #9186 by gone1
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ToxieDogg wrote:

Another thing I've learned is not to tell your partner about too many skeletons in your family closet even if you think you are absolutely 1000% sure that you can trust them or that they won't leave you. Even if you're not at all to blame for whatever it is that you're telling them about, that won't stop them from using it as ammunition against you if problems arise and mudslinging starts. And it's always the things like that which hurt the most. :(


Depends on the person Tox. I think you should be 1000000% honest with the that person. But you should choose wisely. I am not saying people are like eggs but you should open the box before taking them home to make sure they are suitable for consumption :)I am gona get flamed for that LOL.

Thing is people see hiding of past dishonest. And people hate dishonesty most of all.

Thing is if you pick a decent and honest person why should you not be honest with them? Not all people are bad and from 30 onwards they have lived a little bit of life and have a track record. Its that record you should be examining to ensure they are right for you.

Talking about mudslinging you are describing human nature. When someone wants to hurt you they throw things at you. We are all people and you will be hard pushed to find someone that wont do that. I cant say that a character type that doesn't throw mud is a redeeming feature. But a good sound honest person is. And I am sure they can chuck mud with the best of them.

People leave for all kinds of reasons but mostly because the other party has been bad over a number of years. Strive to be a good person treat your partner with love honesty and respect and you cant go to far wrong. At least on your side. Love and relationships are a leap of faith. Try to ensure that you eliminate as many risks as you can. Dont make the same mistakes again. Once bitten twice shy. Chris.

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18 Dec 07 #9207 by sexysadie
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I agree absolutely, Chris. And I love the egg metaphor.

Sadie

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18 Dec 07 #9211 by Vail
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I agree with Chris about the honesty.

I have learned that I have many things still to learn and today in particular, that I am so deeply preoccupied with my own sense of betrayal that I am losing sight of the people that are really important.

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