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What lessons have you learned

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22 Dec 07 #9417 by Sgutt
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I have learned that nothing is 'forever'
Beleive what other people are telling you
Count to 100 before replying to text messages
Dont regret anything, just make sure it doesnt happen again
Drinking will not solve the problem
And finally....
You are a long time dead, make the most of the rest of your life

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16 Mar 10 #192235 by mike62
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Was looking through some old posts on my profile and found this one. Still soooo relevant, but for a whole new generation of Wikipeeps. There are some real pearls of wisdom on this...

Mike

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16 Mar 10 #192238 by hawaythelads
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Don't get married.That way they don't have a financial claim against your assets when the relationship is over.
Time is a great healer.

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16 Mar 10 #192245 by Kimmi
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I learned that I am stronger than I thought I was. I can cope with more than I knew was possible.

I also learned that regardless of the darkness that goes with divorce, it is still a beautiful world and there are so many beautiful people in it. You just need to open your eyes to see it.

k/x

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16 Mar 10 #192275 by Ursa Major
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I have learned it is not what has happened to you but how you deal with it that makes the difference.

I have learned to regret nothing, everthing that has happened to me has made me the person I am, and I like that person.

I have learned that when one door closes another door opens.

I have learned that friends and family only tell you what they think you want to hear, they thnk they are being kind but lack objectivity, so seek advice outwith your usual circle.

Cats eat mice. This is a fact. How you view it depends on whether you are the cat or the mouse - just because someone has a different viewpoint to you doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong.

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16 Mar 10 #192278 by ldg
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Ursa Major wrote:

I have learned it is not what has happened to you but how you deal with it that makes the difference.

I have learned to regret nothing, everthing that has happened to me has made me the person I am, and I like that person.

I have learned that when one door closes another door opens.

I have learned that friends and family only tell you what they think you want to hear, they thnk they are being kind but lack objectivity, so seek advice outwith your usual circle.

Cats eat mice. This is a fact. How you view it depends on whether you are the cat or the mouse - just because someone has a different viewpoint to you doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong.


For the second time this evening I agree whole heartedly with you. Learning how to deal with things has been very empowering for me and whilst I haven't enjoyed this whole divorce process it has been really good for my confidence and I do feel that I am becoming a stronger person for it.

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17 Mar 10 #192499 by musicmad
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Never a lender or a borrower be (especially in matters of the heart).

You can't take material things with you to the "other side" when you die (or even two miles around the corner when you're alive if you're a divorced bloke).

40 is not the new "20".

I can't cook.

If I pre-judge every woman by the way I view my wife I'll be very lonely for a long time.

The divorce laws of this country are pure evil.

If you think you're wrong... then you're almost certainly right.

I'm still a decent, genuine, honest guy - just very gullible.

You might take her away from me, but I'll still love my daughter...

To quote "The world is full of kings and queens who blind your eyes and steal your dreams, its heaven and hell, oh well..."

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