Marriage requires alot of compromise....but there is a limit.
Never trust whole heartedly.
When searching for the truth look at someone's actions rather than listening to their words.
Never make the same mistake twice!
and ....size most certainly DOES matter!!
I am not exactly overjoyed with the overall marriage experience but then i haven't lost a lifetimes work and an expensive house unlike some of you guys.
I have lost a modest house and i can live with that but it does sting somewhat that i have to go cap in hand to "her majesty" every time i might wish to say goodnight to my little girls and heaven forbid i disrupt her precious " routine".
Marriage is great if it works out but not a whole lot of fun when it goes awry.
The house contents - she gets the majority of things
State assisted blackmail?
She lied in bed half the day - I worked hours and hours - I destroyed her "career"
I have drive and ambition - she is lazy - and so is compensated for her "lack of career"
Her future - I carry on bank-rolling it with no incentive for her to ever do anything
I guarantee her future - mine is severely damaged
Her house is far superior to mine - I pay to ensure my daughter has somewhere good to live - she also benefits - she paid nothing towards it
I organise for everything in the divorce I originally didn't want - there being absolutely no incentive for her to agree to anything
I get threatened with keeping her until I die - totally possibly legally (I'd call that blackmail)
I get threatened with never seeing my child - totally possibly legally (I'd call that blackmail)
Oh yes - did I mention that of course I am going through state assisted blackmail?
Two years on and she still won't sign
Oh yes - "our" child heh? The most utterly evil system where people's right to see their own flesh and blood is totally thrown away purely because of their gender. Utterly abhorent.
Are you sure I mentioned state assisted blackmail (all for the benefit of our child apparently and the "sacrifices" she has made)?
Would I consider marriage again? Sure - no problems - that is assuming it's with a woman who has FAR more to loose than I ever do and I ever get over being totally raped (and my daughter still recognises who I am when she is older)... that's an "extremely unlikely" then.
What have I learnt? - don't ever marry or have children if you are male (unless you are happy for your children to be taken from you and your wife has the same career, drive, potential as you do - or better).