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What lessons have you learned

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17 Nov 07 #6862 by gone1
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Camberwick green wrote:

Strength...
You have more of it than you realise until you call on it.

Independance...
You really don't NEED that person, you should WANT them and they to want you not for you to need them.

Kids...
will always love you no matter what, they will learn the truth eventually.


CG.

You have massive reserves of strength. It will amaze you how strong you can be.

Thats right you dont need people that abuse you. The more time you spend with this person the more they drain you. Its only when you leave that person behind do you start to recover. The things that are said to you stay with you. Its hard to shake these words off. Its a form of control to call you fat, skinny, useless, pathetic and so on. Shake these words off. You are none of them. U are a unique and special person as we all are. When you find out out how to shake these words off tell me.

Kids dont always love you. They are people and peoples opionion of each other is fickle. It depends on the parent and what they say to the children. I have no idea what my ex said but I can guess. I wont see them again. Thats over and I am certain of that.

Be good, Chris.

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17 Nov 07 #6866 by ruby
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hi
ive learnt that words are just that,they might be meant at the time,byt they wont always be true.trust,how can you trust others and yourself?after 2 failed relationships,other party cheated,so whats wrong with me?and will i in my next relationship cheat?before it happens to me.can bad relationships change you as a person,is it all a vicious circle?ive also learnt dont dream,i was smug in my life,good husband who loves me,trying for a family,in 5 mins he toke this away from me,so i have learnt never to rely on anyone but yourself.and also that i have to start loving myself and the good things about me.ex have a way of making you feel no good.today the for sale board went up outside house,dream killed again.but im looking forward not back.will be good to have own independence and decorate how i choose!

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17 Nov 07 #6867 by OO Soul
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What did I learn.....

Nothing is forever....

Material things are just material things

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19 Nov 07 #6983 by ToxieDogg
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I've also learned that if you're going to cheat on your spouse and blatently lie about it, then at least make a better attempt to hide your 50+ incriminating emails.

Although that's more of a tip for my STBX wife to take notice of than me ;)

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19 Nov 07 #6991 by Specialdad
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Have learnt the following:

1. Marriage is for some people and not for others.

2. Freedom is priceless.

3. Once bitten twice shy so at 49 going enjoy a bachelors life till I am summoned to heaven.

4. Life is great on your own with a glass of whisky and watching sport with your feet up after a hard days work with no one to nag you.

5. Living with someone costs too much financially and emotionally.

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19 Nov 07 #6994 by suzisu
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What I've learnt is that my STBX has done me a huge favour - I have just had the best weekend catching up with an old friend and learning that there is definately more to life than he was offering!! It does get better, I promise. x

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19 Nov 07 #7005 by loobyloo
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LEarning is certainly a curve.
You will never as a human accept the fact we dont ever really learn.. do we ...
Best not to lose faith because good people do exist.
I have learnt one thing that the law of this country is absurd and needs rewriting to bring it to date with modern society.. comments welcome!
looby

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