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What lessons have you learned

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30 Mar 10 #195359 by fluffy76
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Don't trust anyone.

Don't give yourself completely to any one person.

Have a secret stash of money that he doesn't know about.

Be true to yourself. There's no excuse for abuse.

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31 Mar 10 #195475 by moca
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What I have learnt through the divorce (or separation or Wiki etc) ?

1. Unconditional "friendship"

2. Hypocrites --how people pretend as good person even they are liers.

and I am alone.

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31 Mar 10 #195479 by Elle
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JLGsDad wrote:

Having children puts the power into the hands of the woman.
Courts are outrageously favourable to the woman because its all 'in the interests of the children' that she gets the kids, the house and the assets whilst he gets the bills.

If, like me, you are a loving father then the hurt will take a long time to fade (over 2 yrs down the line and it still hurts like hell).


JLGsDad,

I am a mother 10 years down the line of the father having the kids, the house, the assets, the legal aid to keep same whilst I paid my way...please spare a thought for the small number of mothers in situations similar to the fathers...some having the added difficulties of having no career or family network :ohmy::)

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31 Mar 10 #195481 by Elle
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moca wrote:

What I have learnt through the divorce (or separation or Wiki etc) ?

1. Unconditional "friendship"

2. Hypocrites --how people pretend as good person even they are liers.

and I am alone.


((((((((moca))))))

A few bad apples need not spoil the whole barrel...you are not alone...many of us here are priveleged to "know" you and grateful for your input and friendship :)

Elle x

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