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Why does my ex husband tell lies about me

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24 Mar 12 #319922 by sillywoman
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The girls are 21, 19 and 16. Such lovely girls and he had a great chance today to pick up a relationship with the youngest one who last saw him when she was 14. Yes, I know he "hates" me because I didn''t take him back following his last affair, but at the end of the day he is in a relationship and surely he wants his daughters to be part of his life? Two are at university and are such a credit I suppose to both of us.

He isn''t allowed to contact the girls (court ordered) because when he did phone them he was always drunk and girlfriend would shout down the phone. But they are able to phone him at work, which is the only number they have. This way there is no girlfriend and he isn''t drunk.

The middle one was ill last year and the oldest phoned to ask him to visit her in hospital, but he didnt - just said that she would get better. When asked to send her a card he replied that it wasn''t her birthday! Anyway birthdays came and went as did xmas with nothing.

Oh well, today was a fantastic opportunity for him and he chose to blow it up.

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25 Mar 12 #319947 by Mitchum
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How sad for your daughter and I''m sure that even given his past, this recent episode must have been shock for you too. The poor girl must have been bewildered by his comments about her eyes.

The promise of something for her upcoming prom was a trick to get her there and then he succeeded in getting her to feel sorry for him. What can he have been thinking to promise her something and then to trash it all in this way? Would she take his last few £s? What on earth was that about? Himself of course; poor me literally!

Thank goodness the girls have you for their Mum! You have been their rock through all this and you can take much of the credit for their success. Great news about the work btw. Hope it all works out for you.

Mitchum x

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25 Mar 12 #319951 by Bobbinalong
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Astounded when I read stuff like this, you would have thought there would have been some compassion after all that time but no, just bitterness still.
I hope your daughter is ok from the ordeal and is clear in her mind on what she wants to do in the future.
Its unfortunate, people, have to go through these situations, its an early learning curve for her.

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25 Mar 12 #319953 by freefalling
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How can a father not know the colour of his daughter''s eyes. Is he drinking so much or perhaps smoking some other stuff that has created holes in his brain? It''s his loss but I do feel for your daughter. He''s a selfish idiot! No other person should be more important than your own children. Their needs emotional or otherwise should always be a priority. Thank God your children have you! Take care

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25 Mar 12 #319960 by sillywoman
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My ex husband received his pension last June consisting of a large lump sum and monthly payments, he also works full time. His net income (I know as I get csa) is £2200 per month. He has bought himself a BMW and lives with his gypsy girlfriend in her caravan.

His overheads are pennies with a large inheritance pending in a few years. But, our youngest daughter is very "young", which I love and will believe anything anyone says. So she believed her dad is poor. I have only ever said good things about him, so I said well maybe he is.

The other thing is he arranged to meet her at his place of work and as he works shifts, I assumed it was when he had finished a shift, but no, he was actually working and he gave her ten mins or so and then went back to work!

I felt a bit peed off to be honest this morning. All the girls home for Easter - but to give the older two their credit they willingly give me money from their student loan for their keep, but we live from hand to mouth. He seems to have it all, freedom from responsibilities, loads of money, etc etc.

Youngest found pictures on facebook - I hate that thing of her dad being father to his girlfriend''s bride (her father is in prison for murder) - it wasn''''t quite a big fat gipsy wedding, but not far off - who paid for that????

I know my ex husband doesn''t want to be where he is and to be quite honest I wouldnt be surprised if he afraid to leave, but I was so sad for my youngest daughter.

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26 Mar 12 #320118 by Marshy_
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Its bad when we cant face the truth. And some people are never wrong or never make a mistake or do bad things. I think this is where yr ex lives in his head. He has fooled himself into believing that you did all these things. When of course you didnt. But he has his view. And so do you. But there is only 1 truth. If he wants to believe another version of the truth then thats his lookout. But the thing with lies is that they never stop the truth coming out. And if more than person knows the lie, then it cant be a secret anymore. Instead of feeling angry, feel sorry for such a deluded fool. Perhaps he knows my ex? She is the biggest lying fool on the face of this earth. C.

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