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Why do I feel my life is still not my own?

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15 Apr 12 #323920 by maisymoos
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So much 2 know if only!!! am not planning on cohabiting and would never remarry. I am just happy how things are. I gave up my career to raise the children who are still very young, yes I am sure he would like to see some other bloke paying for their needs, so he can continue to lead an extravagant lifestyle with all the excesses. I guarantee he s not in the least bit interested in my happiness!! Fairyland every right to be cynical :blink:

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15 Apr 12 #323921 by somuch2know2
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not interested in your happiness overall... but interested in your happiness as it means you are off payroll

How old are your children and can you go back to work when they are in school?

Never say never... You may be swept off your feet by someone who you want to wake up to everyday and someone who makes you feel like you never felt before. Its when that day comes that you wonder why you were so upset over the guy you were married to.. the guy you can no longer remember his name..

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16 Apr 12 #324326 by NewHorizons
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I''m glad you are enjoying life.

My ex-MiL was sincerely happy when I met someone, as was ex-FiL.

Ex,however, cancelled contact so much it did destroy the relationship (a few years back now, which was probably just as well). He was satisfied once that was done and then left me alone.
He had re-married by then, but still had the need to control. He has since moved away, and on the rare ocassion he does ring the children, he will ask about how things are with me...
Not financial as he''s managed to avoid the CSA :)

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17 Apr 12 #324463 by Patrick1968
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Why does he want to know about your new friend ? Answer - Ego.

Although he walked he doesn''t want you to be happier or as happy as he is. Personal happiness is an excellent foil to this. He may also want to know who the children are being exposed to which is not unnatural. You could usurp his snooping by sending him an email along the lines of ''The girls met x of Saturday we went for a picnic. I hope they''ll see more of him, I know you''d be concerned as I would be if you heard from another sopurce that the children were being exposed to random people at a difficult point in their development''.

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17 Apr 12 #324469 by maisymoos
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Hi Patrick,

I Suppose it depends on what you consider "random". I don''t consider him to be I have known him for 9 months have slowly introduced him to my family ,mother, sisters, grandmother etc before introducing him to the children.
I have more "random" girlfriends than him. I don''t send emails to my ex to say I met a mother at school and invited her back for coffee and introduced her to the kids???

Ego yes definitely, I have also heard through the grapevine that he isn''t actually happy, funnily enough my heart doesn''t bleed:laugh:

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17 Apr 12 #324490 by Patrick1968
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I am glad his life isn''t the bed of roses he thought it would be...I get a sense of wellbeing when I hear this from people. I wouldn''t expect you to mail everything or mean that your friend is random but just to stop the kids being interogatted. But you know best and slow and gradual is the way it should be done with the kids, well done and I''m happy for you, smiles on my face when one of us wins :cheer:

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