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Life after divorce

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21 Apr 12 #325647 by yewtree
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It has been 4 and a half years since my ex left me for another woman, and 2 and a half years since the divorce was finalised. It has been a hard few years but i finally feel happy and contented with life. I have had many ups and downs especially after the divorce was finalised, it seemed that keeping it together and being strong deserted me and i slumped into depression. I resorted to anti depressants and counselling which helped me come to terms with what had happened and after a year of medication i felt well enough to come off them. I have made changes in my life, i am strong, independant woman who will never again be treated like a doormat. So for all of you who are going through it please take heart that it does get better and you can get through it.

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21 Apr 12 #325649 by flowerofscotland
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Hi yewtree,

Thank you for sharing, your optimism gives us all some hope.

Take care for now FoS x

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21 Apr 12 #325650 by fairylandtime
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Thank you so much yew tree, yours is the first post I''ve read tonight & I am 2 years in divorce finalised December Consent Order & finance still getting sorted & x messing round with child support!

Was so depressed today''s with x for messing me / us about when finances are what he wanted & I stupidly agreed, a sols bill (out of the blue when thought it was all finished), really really hard week at work & the differences between parenting for us plus fell out with another family member when said I was struggling so much with money etc etc could go on forever! :(

Just feel so bad, a complete failure at the marriage, at sorting out kids with exams (& no study), with money & sheer amount this has all & continues to cost & then fell out with family member was hoping to be knocked down by a car so I could put everyone out of their misery (which is me).

You have made me realise that it may be bad now, but have come so far & there is an end & it will be better.

Thank you JJx

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21 Apr 12 #325664 by sun flower
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A huge thank you. I''ve had a low couple of days too - and your post really has helped. I wish you many sunny days from here on in. Sc

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23 Apr 12 #326041 by julesgy
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hi yewtree
reading your post was really good im just starting the divorce path (hes divorcing me for ub but he''s the guilty one ) and at this moment in time i see my future as lonely and doom and gloom after 33yrs of marriage its like i know nothing else so once again thankyou for giving me a glimmer of hope x
take care

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