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2 years since my divorce came through (update)

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06 May 12 #328751 by greebobeebo
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I still meander through the forum, most days and occasionally post.

This is the first time I''ve posted about me in yonks.

I am now living in a 3 bed flat not far from my town centre, I have 1 dog and 1 cat and 1 son.

T''other son decided last year, that he wanted to escape the insanity that was our life and live with his paternal grandparents. I''t was not announced particularly well, but in the end was a good decision, I see him every tuesday after school. The relationship he has with his brother is better as well.

I am still see sawing with my depression, but not having a hormonal teenager, who doesn''t know whether he''s coming or going has levelled it out a bit.

#2 son is still a happy little boy, who will be 7 this year. He spends at least one night over the weekend over at his cousins. This means I get me time and he gets a male influence in his life and also he can play on their nintendo wii.

We saw his dad about a fortnight ago, we were walking one way through the church yard, he was walking the other. He didn''t acknowledge either of us, so after he had gone past us I told #2 son who he was. He wanted to go say Hi, but by this time his dad was in a pub.

This made me start with the what if''s...
Fortunately I got it out of my system, cuz I knew that he would never be any different.

I did find myself a new man, but unfortunately he was one of the ''all you have to do'' brigade and he would come round my house and criticize in the name of helping me.

I got a bit annoyed with him when he started to dictate how I should bring my son up.

So I am now on my own again.

At the end of last year I also discovered that my Mum has Motor Neurone disease, so I have to deal with that as well, he who was my boyfriend could not understand why I was finding it so hard to cope.

I''m in the process of becoming a mentor at my local drugs and alcohol drop in and have also recently successfully bid for some money to set up a music group for the benefit of the service users.

Now all I have to do is find a part time paid job.

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06 May 12 #328752 by greebobeebo
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My dog Morris and #2 son

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09 May 12 #329456 by Patrick1968
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Well done you. Very well done on giving your son the flexibility to make decisions this will come back to you when he is older and realises what you have done. Excellent work on setting up the group and mentoring. I don''t have anything postive to say about a man who is father who does not acknowledge his son other than he is neither a man or father. keep up the good work. Pat

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