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09 May 12 #329565 by strongerthanithought
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Just wanted to share that after being told that I''d never do it, I''d never get in, they''d never have me, I''m too stupid, I can''t because my place is looking after him, that I''ve been accepted for a place at University today.
I''m so chuffed! I wanted this since before we met, but was told all the above so many times that I began to think maybe he was right. After all, he had me convinced I was pretty worthless and useless and incompetent at everything else.
So today I am proud. I know I''ve got lots of fantastically hard work ahead, but after all I''ve been through - no, all he put me through - this is something I *WILL* achieve.
So far I''ve spent 2 years mending myself emotionally, and the divorce is nowhere near over, but this is a massive step on my journey towards re-discovering myself.
May we all take those small steps, and sometimes big ones towards personal happiness and fulfilment!

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09 May 12 #329566 by margarita2309
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Be proud of yourself.:)

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10 May 12 #329579 by insane
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well done.. you can do it, and im sure you will do it be proud of yourself keep smiling

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10 May 12 #329582 by fairylandtime
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Congratulations - it is really hard when you are put down so much that you believe they are right my x was exactly the same so I know how hard it is to do even the smallest thing (right) & know / no realise - oh I can do it or I can do it right. Almost as if you don''t believe that you are able / worth anything.

But you are & you can & this is huge - hard work but rewarding & a huge step in become you, becoming whole again.

Again congratulations on wards & upwards & don''t look back.


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10 May 12 #329583 by Canuck425
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Of course you can! What will you be studying? Have fun on campus!

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10 May 12 #329584 by sim5355
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hi! strongerthanithought i would be chuffed too as i know exactly what you went through as i have been there to. i have just started college one day a week but after years of abuse even that feels good i am nearly two years into trying to divorce and gradually getting stronger every day but still cannot fully understand how they can behave in that way it strange this personality disorder well good luck.xx

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10 May 12 #329611 by rubytuesday
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Excellent news, strongerthanithought - what an apt username! :)

Wishing you all the best for your new {student) life.

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