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15 May 12 #330580 by whyme41
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For those of you that remember Wiki in 2008 I felt that it was maybe time to give you an update and for those of you that we have never known since to give you some hope for the future

4 years ago I fell across Wiki probably when I needed it most, I had found out that my ex was having an affair. Wiki people in chat helped me no end, especially Rosie who held my hand on the net for 3 weeks and made life almost bearable. Eventually Wiki Chat had me hooked and Friday nights were virtual party nights where we tried to forget about our problems and have some fun and believe me there were some funny people on here!

Anyway 4 years ago today someone in chat was feeling miserable because he had moved back home at the age of 35 and did anyone want to meet him for lunch? Not something that was condoned on Wiki at that time but we had all been chatting for weeks and where was the harm? Well I ended up agreeing to meet this Guy known by many usernames because he kept getting booted out because he was so opinionated and always wanting to cause a stir, in fact that day he had been sent to the naughty step on the site. For those of you who are now smiling in memory - yes it was AJ.

AJ and Whyme (myself) met for a drink and a huge thank you must go to Dukey who told me like a father all the do''s and dont''s of meeting a stranger and text me every ten minutes to see that I was ok and debriefed the meeting with me afterwards - AND AJ i found out later - thanks for advising him about the flowers! Dukey was my "I will come and get you if it all goes wrong" funny that as he lived hundreds of miles away!
To Linda who was my emergency number "Go to the ladies ring me if you don''t like him and I will ring you and say I am the babysitter, kids are ill you need to come home" you know the story!
To fenderfunk who was my advisor on what to wear on a first date, his advice - less is more!! Well it was''nt not that night anyway.

That was 4 years ago and AJ and I are still together, we are still as happy now as we were then, we got engaged 2 years ago and moved into "our" first house together 18 months ago.

So to all of you out there who think life will never be the same again - it wont! It will be better!, I thank Wiki for the help and support its members gave us during very difficult times and there will come a time like us when you no longer need the site and that is a great result because you have moved on. We have made some life long friends on here that we still keep in touch with but I wanted to share our story with those of you who do wonder what life after divorce is like and the answer is AMAZING.

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15 May 12 #330593 by dukey
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Hello Missus :kiss:

Proof that life does go on eh! and four years is it really that long? i remember the day you met Mr AJ pacing the floor wondering how it was going, more worried that it would be one of those dates where you both spend time looking at your shoes trying to think of something to say rather than was the guy an axe murderer, and look how it turned out, your a family now and life is good, i see the pictures of you all and they make me smile, you all look so happy and content.

Most wont know Mr AJ, what can i say, big guy strong opinions very clever and an interesting bloke all round really, for some reason he decided to study for a PHD in how to torture moderators, he passed with a first :)a decent man in a difficult divorce, i remember one night he told me this tale of woe a deep dark problem, and one you just can`t escape, and then he told me he made it up and i was a gullible fool, i can`t type my reply ;)

Rosie, lovely woman and just so you know doing very well, she`s far to busy for wiki these days, she has a good job, a busy social life which seems to be adventure sports mostly, lately its been clay pigeon shooting white water rafting and now scuba diving with another guy she met on wiki, surprise surprise, Fender is now in Madrid with his lady, we don`t talk much but he is happy, but hey why wouldn''t he be good looking a proper ladies man and talented (though the boast he made back in the day was untrue) i still call him donkey today.

Linda and i are good, still together and very happy, when the day comes and i leave wiki i like many others will always be grateful to wiki and the friends i have made.

The site has changed so much in the last few years, members don`t know each other like they did in the beginning, but how could they it went from a few thousand to now around 90,000, but it still does what it was always intended too, help anyone who needs help, long may it last.

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15 May 12 #330616 by lozzsa21
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What a lovely story thanks so much for sharing it with us. I hope the rest of us can be so positive in time, it really gives hope.

Good luck to you both x

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15 May 12 #330622 by NoWhereToTurnl
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That has brought happy tears to my eyes and given me hope in my heart. A very big thank you for sharing and every best wish for your future together.

PS Dukey if your upto playing cupid again, I am available :-)

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15 May 12 #330650 by perin123
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What a lovely post, and one to give us all hope!

Wiki has been to me a lifeline and Dukey like a second dad (sorry!) with all his advise and kind words.

Maybe one day too I will leave this mess behind and be happy again :)

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17 May 12 #331273 by scaryspice
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What a wonderful story .Thank you for sharing it .
There is life after divorce and this will give us all hope for a happy future .
Good luck to you both .

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17 May 12 #331277 by raybird
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well before my wikki days, but thank you, lovely story that has given me some hope for the future xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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