NEVER UNDERSTAND THEM

I had to tell my ex that i had some news from the doctor on saturday and i may need treatment..
I also had to tell him that our son was due in for his toe operation at the beginning of june...he replied shall i take a day off and take him...is he for real?!...last year i asked him to pick up our son as i had to have a op...he gave him a fiver for a taxi...this is the man who watched me take our son for an op before xmas take or son to the nurse for checkups and now all of a sudden hes wants to be the perfect father beause i maybe poorly!

Could you view this as positive? i.e. he has realised maybe last time he should have helped mroe with your son when you were in hospital and is trying to do that now?

Yeah i understand what you are saying emma but when you have gone through 16 months of pure hell from him im reluctant to let him help..my son had his first toe op in dec he wasnt bothered then..but all of a sudden when hes realises that the stress that hes put me through may be the cause of my illness hes concerned...it doesnt wash well with me!

I agree with Emma that it is likely best to move forward and see this positively. Maybe he is actually concerned and wants to help?

Can you live in the present? That means not blaming for the past and not worrying about the future. It''s tough!

I know with my recent health worry my stbx asked if I wanted her there. She asked very nicely and told me that she understood if I didn''t. I (hopefully) politely declined and then called her with the positive news when the tests were over.

It''s tough. Figuring out this new relationship. I hope that both of you are doing your best to be positive and the best parents you can be!