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29 May 12 #333888 by mag gie
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soon 2 bEx refusing t set PSO he owes me(over past 4 years) writ issued but, if he ignores it as he has done to date can I legally demand the seizures of assets. I can''t get my divorce finalised. He has a malignant Narcissistic Personality and is the most umpleasant of abusers. I spent 27!!!!!!yrs with him and survived - times when thought he would kill me. Just want this finished with my divorce and to never
have to set eyes on him again. Bware of any baldy, red-haired train drivers who comes across as a party-animal - he''s not what he seems and will physically, emotionally and sexually abuse you behind closed doors and no-one will believe you as he''s "....such a good guy!!!!" NOT. Thanks for any help with this x

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29 May 12 #333912 by Fiona
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Your husband sounds a delightful character but who on earth diagnosed malignant narcissistic personality? Malignant narcissistic personality disorder is in the American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders but it isn''t in the diagnostic criteria used at the coal face in the UK (or most of the rest of the world) the International Classification of Diseases. The reason DSM isn''t used is because it is considered unscientific and there are ongoing issues concerning the validity and reliability of the diagnostic categories.

To answer your question before enforcement your share needs to be determined and the courts make a PSO. It''s contempt of court not to comply with court rules and procedures so ultimately the court could fine or arrest your husband for non disclosure.

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29 May 12 #333917 by mag gie
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Thanks Fiona for the PSO advise. MNPD - my counsellor (for abused women) listened to our life history and advised me to look up Narcississim - Melanie Evans, Understanding Narcississim. An article which appeared to have been written about our 27 yr "relationship" - an eye-opener and, I must say, gave me a eureka moment and I s aid out loud, I know what you are now. It cleared my head after nearly 30 years of confusion, being controlled and abused .

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29 May 12 #333918 by sim5355
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my thoughts are with you as i too have a nasty bald headed narcissist ex 2 years so far just about to go to first court hearing. good luck

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