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when does it get better?

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01 Jun 12 #334551 by blonde cazza
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What is it with our exs.I thought mine was getting a little better but oh no....i just asked to see our dog as i have a couple of days off but no he cant even let me do that!:angry:
From the moment we seperated he has given me nothing but grief and it justs sees to be getting worse!
Why do they have to be control freaks i never understand...

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01 Jun 12 #334565 by afonleas
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:)HI BC,feel the same,just when you think you can possibly stay on friendly terms they throw a spanner in the works and heyho here we go again and we are the innocent ones.
My ex''s arrogance is unbelievable whether it''s because he''s with his tart and i''m single and it''s a case of one up manship i don''t know but i would rather live my life than his.
I think as well we have allowed them to inflict pain on us when seperating so it becomes second nature to them also the controlling aspect,they decided to have affairs so that was in their control and now they still want that power over us,sorry i live in the real world not la la land and i will never allow anyone to hurt me like that again sorry guys i will not class you all the same as there are some great and thoughtful guys on here who have had the same done to them by the nasty element of the female race so hopefully we are not all classed the same.
Is there a specific gene lacking in these people i don''t know possibly someone could answer that for me?
luv and cwtches to you xx:)

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01 Jun 12 #334570 by blonde cazza
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gd girl...
There never was a third party involved with us it just seems to want to make my life hell.
Mine kept saying you can see him in the future but oh no now hes saying he can only comefor the day for our son...so i ask him if he can come for a day then nooooooo reply! xx

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01 Jun 12 #334574 by afonleas
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:)What a selfish bas---d still controlling and upsetting your world but why do we allow it?:(luv and cwtchs xx

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01 Jun 12 #334578 by sim5355
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they are narcisstics

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01 Jun 12 #334582 by afonleas
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:)What a fantastic word for a friday afternoon love it and have not had a magners yet, but we should not class them all the same only the stinking rotten cheaters.:)
luv and cwtchs xx

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02 Jun 12 #334686 by Marshy_
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Hi BC.

blonde cazza wrote:

Why do they have to be control freaks i never understand...


They dont have to be. And you dont have to let them. No one should control you except you. Its yr life, you own it. No one else.

You asked when does it get better. I know this sounds simple. But its true. When you decide it should get better it will get better. Thats it. Thats all there is to it.

Its when you start fighting back that you take back control and start feeling better. Also, one day the worm turns and I dont know, but you kinda snap inside. Thats how it was for me. I thought... You are not going to beat me. You are not going to step over me in the gutter. And I got angry. Not chucking my flying ducks out the window angry but deep deep anger. And then I changed. I started fighting. For my life. For my future. This is what you have to do.

Be a thorn in his side. Be that person that no matter what he throws at you, you will not give in and stand up to him. Learn the word "NO". Use it a lot. C.

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