I bought my ex out of the property 5 years ago for a Clean Break & to ensure the kids had stability after the fall out of the divorce. Both are now adults but continue to live at home. The house was not my choice & I have never been entirely happy here due to its location on a busy road & tiny third bedroom but its convenient for transport links & support networks. there are no financial benefits to moving until the kids fly the nest & I downsize but the house has reached a point where I need to invest money in its maintenance and i cant shake the desire I want to have a fresh start. Do I stay here til the kids leave & redecorate, move to another house locally or move completely away. Been looking on line & visiting potential areas but this has just made me more confused as I cant afford what I wld like. Am increasingly feeling that the local area is not so bad & maybe I just need to not live in the FMH but is it worth incurring 10k moving costs to move within the same area &until the kids have left. Feel frustrated yet again that the ex does not have this problem & can set up home with yet another new woman & her brood whilst im trapped in the FMH. Heart or financial common sense?
Have you talked to your adult children about your desire to move, you might find a discussion between all of you helps clarify what to do. It might even be that they are reluctant to move out because they would be leaving you on your own.
It can be so very stressful moving house and if you are not entirely sure it could be just one big headache.
Have you had an evaluation done and been given an idea on how much demand there could be on your property?
The point is, how feasible is it before you get hopes up? Only saying as my friends took over two years to get their property sold, due to being messed around and a lack of movement in the property market. THey became quite depressed with the whole experience. But your situation could be entirely and hopefully different!
And if you do get a new property will you have to move again in a few years when you downsize?
Have you done the good old pro/con list?
I also agree you should chat to your children and see what they think or advice they can offer.
What about having a conversion or something to make it feel different?
I wish you all the best in whichever decision you make.