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23 Jun 12 #338657 by wmorris2
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Hello,

I''ve been reading these forums for years. Thought it was time I signed up.

Been separated 2 years divorced 8 months but had no contact since she walked out. Nothing from children either.

In the last few months I''ve been getting really down days. Where I usually drink to try to numb the pain.

Do you think I am relapsing? Should I get some more counseling? I had some when she went initially

Living on my own on the cold dark days it feels like the world is against me. And I just keep breaking down

Will

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23 Jun 12 #338662 by robinson25
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sounds like you really need to talk to someone. have you any family or friends that you can confide in . if not counceling may be the way forward. Keep posting on here, if you go on the blog section instead of the forum you may get more replies. This is where people can just write their thoughts or have a rant.

I have found that this site has been a life saver for me when i have been down.

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23 Jun 12 #338664 by wmorris2
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Thanks,

No I have no family. All dead even parents. My ex and kids were my family. I will go for some counseling and maybe start a blog.

Thanks for the advice.

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24 Jun 12 #338673 by moca
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Hi Will

I have no family, neither.
Well, I have a father , but he has been very ill being in hospital ( 2 weeks ago, he was nearly "dying"..).
My mother passed away 20 years ago, my sister passed away 10 years ago(commited suicide)
No kids..
So I have similar feeling with you.

I have felt down often, feeling empty often.
Sometimes I am very sensitive, but maybe some people never know how it is like.

In my case, I just have kept working everyday. Sometimes 10 hours or more.
When I arrive at home, I am so tired, then no time to feel "alone", just tired then go to bed.

Maybe it will be ideal to share your feeling or experience to write a blog.

take care
x

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24 Jun 12 #338674 by wmorris2
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moca wrote:

Hi Will

I have no family, neither.
Well, I have a father , but he has been very ill being in hospital ( 2 weeks ago, he was nearly "dying"..).
My mother passed away 20 years ago, my sister passed away 10 years ago(commited suicide)
No kids..
So I have similar feeling with you.

I have felt down often, feeling empty often.
Sometimes I am very sensitive, but maybe some people never know how it is like.

In my case, I just have kept working everyday. Sometimes 10 hours or more.
When I arrive at home, I am so tired, then no time to feel "alone", just tired then go to bed.

Maybe it will be ideal to share your feeling or experience to write a blog.

take care
x


Thanks for the advice. I will try that and see what happens

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24 Jun 12 #338704 by afonleas
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Hya Will,
At times even when we seem to think things are okay we still struggle!!
What you and the rest of us have been through is a life changing experiance, and for you also to have no contact with your children is going to affect you more.

Sorry but the drink is not the answer!!although you are not on your own on that one,if we were honest most of us tried that and yes it does work, for the moment only!!
the problems and how we deal with them are still there,if only it was easy as that.

Maybe you need to have a chat to your GP and also arrange some more counselling,you certainly do not want to have feel any lower than you are now!!!

Try to do something you enjoy, i know it''s hard but you have to keep yourself motivated or maybe take up a new hobby and possibly make new friends while doing it.
Yes it may seem as though you are in the darkdays but there are brighter ones out there,but unfortunatly only you can make those small steps to find them.

This forum will be a godsend to you i promise,but you also have to try and create some sort of life also,existance is not a good place to be

Best of luck
Luv and cwtchs .................Afon

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24 Jun 12 #338714 by Marshy_
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Hi will. Must be heartbreaking you not seeing the kids and being stuck in limbo. The answers you seek are not in a bottle. And drinking like that wont get yr kids back. If you are serious about getting yr kids back, you have to get back on track with yr life and drink wont help you.

What you could try is make a conscious effort to change. Perhaps some counselling and some decisions about yr life choice will help you. Get yrself straight and you have a fair chance of seeing the kids again. What have ya gota loose fella? Hope that helps. C.

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