My exhusband and i were divorced almost a year ago, and we have been living apart since January 2010. I have a new partner and am hoping to move in with him in the very near future.
My ex intially was fairly ok with our seperation and subsequent divorce, very hurt and upset but he signed the forms and we handled the money things ourselves. We agreed to try and remain friends.
However as time as gone on, things between us have gone from bad to worse, and i have found out that he drives past my house at various times of the day to see if im in. He has also been seen sitting in his car looking at my house. He quizzes our children (both adults) as to where i am and who i am with, and most recently has sent me foul and abusive text messages after hearing about a night out i had with an acquantance of his.
I dont know how to handle this, im reluctant to confront him as our daughter is getting married soon and i dont want there to be an atmosphere at her wedding.
The children both say he is still hoping we will get back together, which is never going to happen, i just wish he would move on and let go.
How soory to hear your situation, i too was in a similar one, mine would sit outsiden the hose in his car and question the children, they were only 6 and 10. Eventually i had to face him and talk to him, i told him that even though i had no one else i had moved on with my life and that he should do the same, he cried and i didnt feel anything towards him ( in the past i may have done ) iasked him not to question the children because it was upsetting them. he said, he didnt want anone else ever and had hoped we would get back together,i said no way. as time went on he did find someone else and so did i, that was 12 months ago, we are now divorcing and we both happy in our own lives, .. i hope your situation will resolve itself and he will find someone. x