Hi first post, hope I''m in the right area. Thought I was right at the end of the divorce process. 23 years married. Police officer husband left 10 years ago. I started divorce 5 years ago and got to Decree Nisi. Then let it lie. Restarted it recently. Got actuarial valuation but didn''t go ahead with it due to considerable bitterness on his part. Decided to go with lower CETV valuation. However, now he refuses to go ahead to Decree Absolute unless i agree to pension sharing order only to be implemented 3 months prior to his retirement next year at 60 or lump sum on his retirement. He says its to his considerable disadvantage to accept anything else and my solicitor has engineered things to his disadvantage. This simply isn''t true. Can anyone advise please, do I need specialist advice?
Sorry no one answered this, it seems to have slipped by.
Yes indeed you do need some specialist advice for sure, when pensions are shared it tends to be one of two ways.
pension sharing, a long way the most common, a chunk of his pension is lopped off and becomes yorus, you each have a pension.
Earmarking, not very common these days but this is what he is suggesting, for a number of reasons there can be problems, one is if you do accept a lump sum paid when he takes his lump he may not pay you this should not happen but it does, if it does and he spends the money you cannot enforce even the Consent Order.