Can you help me on something that I just can''t work out! I have a good relationship with the whole of my ex''s family (including my ex thankfully). The question is, what do I refer to them as? Is my mother-in-law my ex mother-in-law for example, my neice, my ex neice?!!!
Have I divorced them too? It just seems like a total mouthful so any suggestions as to how you refer to them as would be gratefully received (out-laws is the obvious but jokey one!)
Its not that I need to explain to anyone but just as an example, when I am talking about things at work, my colleagues don''t know my mother in laws name so I get myself toungue tied explaining who she is
you don''t owe anyone an explanation. EWhy not just refer to them by name? (i.e. not ''my ex mother in law but ''jane'' (or ''Jane Smith'')
If someone asks how you''re related you cn be vague "oh, we''re extended family, it''s complicated" or you can say "I used to be married to her daughter"
If you have (young) nephews & neices and they/you/their parents aren''t comfortable with you just being known by your first name I don;t see any reason why they can''t carry on calling you "Uncle/Aunt BusyBee" if that''s what they are used to. After all, those kinds of titles are commonly used for people whi are not technically an aunt of uncle (I am ''auntie'' to my freinds son (no relation) and to my cousin''s children (they are technically my 1st cousin''s once removed, but I''m the same age as their parents so ''auntie'' is simpler)