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Absolute received at last- moving on

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16 Oct 12 #361214 by QPRanger
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Well my Decree Absolute arrived in the post yesterday, 13 months after we split.

My reaction.....relief I guess, happy that the woman no longer has my surname, indifferent as well. My reaction would have been a LOT different just three or four months ago as I battled the darkest forces of my depression but time DOES help you heal (as does an ex-wife who has acted like a manipulative, lying, procrastinating, thieving, spiteful b*tch....)

The financial side of things continues, as does my stand against her ''harrassment'' claims but I can at last see that my future without my ex has GOT to be better than the years of unhappiness my marriage gave me with a woman who just didn''t care.

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16 Oct 12 #361224 by GETTING STRONGER NOW
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I''m with you there QPRanger. Its took 12 months to realise his betrayal did me a favour. Can''t say I don''t have the odd moments of deep dark depression wondering how I can go because I do. But like you say things can only get better... I have only myself and our children to please now and I''m certainly in no rush to replace him..

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16 Oct 12 #361241 by tiredandirritated
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Hi QPR
Im so glad that you posted this as I am sitting here at the very early stages of divorce and I feel totally empty apart from palpitations as I wait for the next barrage of S**t to hit my letterbox.
I cant wait to be in a place like yours and you have given me a little hope for today.....Thank you and all the best

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16 Oct 12 #361257 by QPRanger
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Hi tired

really glad I have spread a little hope today!

My depression after my split led me to turn in on myself: never going out, talking to hardly anyone and certainly not posting on here. I used to sob my heart out for my wife: I can now see that there is a life beyond her and that I CAN and WILL do better for myself. I look back to the first 6 months and wonder how I survived...but I did and I''m still here. Its taught me I''m stronger than I thought I was, and need to build up my self worth and learn to love myself after years of no love from my so-called wife....

Hang on in there....!

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16 Oct 12 #361262 by tiredandirritated
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Im going to try my best but as you know it is so hard and I just hope i''m strong enough... Thank you for those words

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16 Oct 12 #361283 by Kazzabell80
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QPR I am so happy for you to reach this milestone. As the title of your thread suggests you are able to at last begin to move on with your life - I know that you still have some outstanding issues to address but at least this is one less thing to worry about.

I have read on here somewhere that indifference is the best place to be emotionally as your ex no longer has that hold over you and you no longer mourn for her.

So well done :P

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29 Oct 12 #363604 by AwaitingDivorce
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Great to read - im in the early stages of D and struggling really bad

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