After I met my x she continued to use her maiden name in the town she traded in.
There was some justification as the business name contained her maiden name.
Everyone knew she was married but as she traded with her father in a family business it was just accepted.
She never changed to my surname until she had to announce that she was pregnant and I only think that happened for respectability reasons.
Forward a lot of years.
There was obviously a reason to keep my surname as my daughter had the same surname but when my daughter got married I asked my x whether she was going to revert to her maiden name. She declared that she had never liked her maiden name !!
So she now calls herself Ms.......
Quite frankly Im not that bothered but I have managed to keep a degree of respectability whilst she got a bit of a party animal reputation (if you know what I mean)
Ladies I have been out with or know are mixed regarding keeping or ditching the married name. Most ditched the married name unless they had younger children.
I decided that I wanted to be myself and have nothing that connected with my ex. Am currently changing my name by deed poll so that I don''t have to be the first Mrs B... Frankly, I just want to move on which is why I decided to change. But it is down to the individual.
I shall keep my married name, I wasn''t fond of my maiden name and was Mrs S for nearly twice as long as I was Miss H so that''s who I feel I am, also it''s very important to me to be Mrs rather than Miss or Ms so no plans to change anything here.
Same here Clawed - I was a Miss H too and now am Mrs S - I have kids with the same name. I liked my maidin name but I identify with my current name - and I have been known as Mrs S for longer than anything else.
I dont know if I should become Ms S when I divorce - I am not sure of the protocol. I certainly have no intention of remarrying.
I am not yet divorced. I did ponder about this for a while. Legally, you can call yourself whatever you like as long as there is no intent to defraud.
My maiden name is very prosaic. My current married name is nearer the beginning of the alphabet which I think is helpful when dealing with bureaucracy, which I do have to do. I had thought about taking a more unusual surname from my family history, but what puts me off is that it would be such a faff altering everything and then having to put "formerly known as" on documents. I HATE form filling!
My married name is the name of my children and the family I married into I quite like. I have been married a lot longer than I was single. So I will probably keep my married name, though I might feel differently once I am actually divorced.