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Did you change your name after divorce?

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27 Mar 16 #476018 by pebbleonthebeach
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If my kids were still at school I would not be changing but as they are adults and I talked it through with them I felt it was a positive step forward in being me. But it''s up to each person what they do. For me it was a chance to send a message to my ex that he was no longer part of my life.

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27 Mar 16 #476020 by itsbeenalongtime
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I to am not yet divorced but I guess I will keep my married name. Throughout the whole divorce process I have had to point out to my stbx that marriage is a legal contract that you can not just click your fingers and change.
I to have been Mrs S far longer than I was Miss D. He has taken everything he could from me but my children are my life and I dont want to be called anything different from them.

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27 Mar 16 #476035 by Lipstickandlollipops
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I will keep my married name too, one day I will share it with my grandchildren, that''s reason enough.

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27 Mar 16 #476036 by afonleas
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I have kept my married name,although I still live in the village I grew up in,so to many people I am still known by my Maiden Name..
My eldest daughter has decided that she will not marry her partner,because of what I went through,so I would like to have the same name as her.

I was a Mrs a lot longer than a Miss,and I was proud to take his name,so changing mine back would not change the situation,and frankly I could not be arsed spending time doing it...


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27 Mar 16 #476040 by elizadoolittle
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Many times I have had occasion to be grateful that I never changed my name on marriage. Funnily enough, it is not until reading this thread and the comment by Polar that I have thought to be even more grateful that I never took him up on his (possibly insincere - it turned out everything else was) offer to change his name to mine. I shudder at the thought. I would absolutely hate my good name to be tarnished by his behaviour, so that was another bullet dodged!

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28 Mar 16 #476049 by littlegreen
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My ex''s name has a bad reputation but it was just a name to me. I have never been in trouble with the law and neither had he but I feel that he was/is ashamed of the name.

After he left I opened a new email account using my Maiden Name, as far as I was concerned I was no longer Mrs @, why would I consider saying I was. It''s funny but I remember him having to send some papers to me in the post that I had requested via email. When they arrived the envelope was addressed using only my Christian name. I wonder if he thought that I couldn''t get away from the name quick enough. That wasn''t the case, as I said its just a name but why he didn''t address the letter with my full title I don''t know.

I''m divorced now and I''m in between names. My passport expires soon and I will change my name when I renew it. If anyone asks me my name I refer to myself as Miss S, after all that''s how I came into the world and its how I shall leave it. I don''t intend to take any one else''s name ever again.

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28 Mar 16 #476063 by flowerofscotland
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Hi polar,

I kept my married name. Firstly because I never left my family, he did. Secondly I have two sons and I wanted to keep the family name for generations to come. The third thing was it was much easier to travel on holiday abroad if the kids and I had the same name, when they were young and the fourth reason was to annoy the OW (plural)!!!!

Take care for now FoS x

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