Thank you so much Mitchum,you helped my through the whole process from start to finish. My husband Is a solitary man so will not miss the company but im sure even he wishes he had the support of his family, not that he deserved it. I just feel in his older age he will live to regret the path he took. I am here 100% for my mum and Im sure my children will be right by my side in my hours of need and we all have those times. I am truly grateful to everyone on wiki and hope that the path everyone is on is not too steep and they can exit it with their dignity, love and respect from their friends and family.
Great to read this itsbeenalongtime. It was the posts like these where everyone is moving on happy with their lives that got me through the early dark days, they gave me hope and proved true. I was lucky in that my ex was fair but the fear and confusion were still huge. If anyone new is reading this be reassured that you will come through and probably be happier than you can imagine now.
So true Clawed. A lot of the worry is just fear of the unknown. Being thrown down a path you were`nt expecting and not being ready for such a huge change. In my case it came out of the blue so there was no slow gradually preparation. I never thought I would come out the other side or ever be happy again. My life is controlled by one person now and thats me. No massive shocks or surprises. It may not be the life I would have chosen but I am in a position to make the very best I can out of it. With the support of my family and friends and certainly my new found wiki friends, I have realised that there is life after divorce and im going to make the most of it.
Love to all. keep kicking butt.
Thank you, yes I too control my life now and with the help of my two amazing teenagers have sort of come out of the other end.
I have a home, a job and this year we are having a holiday which I am so looking forward to.
Still have my bad days where I do sit there and still wonder why, like you I never saw it coming and we I thought had our future planned.
Life is simpler but far more rewarding.
It will have taken four years this summer but I feel like I am finally getting there.
We should raise a glass to us all, we fought and we made it. Xx
Well I hope you have the best holiday ever Lymm, you certainly deserve it.
Its my ex`s birthday today and I have`nt reminded the kids(adult). Not that they could send him a card or gift as no one knows where he is living. So a statutory text this evening will be ample. Its these silly things that make me realise how much I had to keep the unit together. Im proud to say they would never forget my birthday,valentines,etc. Always getting lovely surprises from them both. I thank god every day that they seem to have achieved the best from both of us.
We should have a toasting day designated to all divorcees, but I guess in the mean time we just make our on celebration day.
I plan on so amazing holidays in the years to come to make memories that were never made when he was around.
All the best, lots of love and heres to many more good days. xx