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1 year 11 months ago #505446 by archileach123
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Hi- new here. Been two years after unwanted [url=Resources/Library/Cohabitation-and-Separation_s33_m1852.html ]separation[/url]. Wife left me for my good friend. Have to share kids with them. MIssing being part of a whole family. Miss my old life--not happy-- dating someone but it doesn't replace what I had. don't know how to cope.

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1 year 10 months ago #505575 by Vigorate
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Take some time out from dating if it is not making you happy and focus on yourself.

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1 year 10 months ago #505578 by Mitchum
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Wikis will tell you that coping with the sadness of divorce can’t be hurried or sidestepped. Recovery takes time and we're all different in the length of time till we feel 'normal' again - whatever that may be.

Keep in mind that you are grieving the loss of the family life you thought was secure and you can't simply 'get over it', you have to work at it. You also may need professional help if you feel no better now after two years, so a chat with the GP may be the way to go. I too experienced my ex leaving with my former friend and colleague and such betrayal is particularly difficult to deal with.

Give yourself permission to cry. Tears are therapeutic. Acknowledge the pain.
Often others say things like, ‘You’re not the first to get divorced and you won’t be the last’, ‘it happens’ and ‘pull yourself together’. They are trying to help, but only you know what is right for you. You can’t grieve to order. Be patient with yourself and take care of yourself physically and emotionally.

Remember grieving does end. Do the best you can in the meantime. Try new things, plan a break away. As you move through the healing, you get stronger and you can start moving on towards a new fulfilling life and eventual happiness.

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