Sorry for the late reply. I think the position I am at now, I probably wouldn't recommend a second marriage, forget all the religious and moral reasons, whats the real reason? It shouldn't make any difference to feelings, but thats what some women are driven by, solely. Thats not a criticism, its a fact.
I also read "Sex before Dawn' its an amazing insight into human relations and demonstrates why marriage is a situation created by our modern society, its not what we are instinctively driven to be in.
Apologies, late reply. The book was, borrowed, struggling to remember the title, but it describes heartbreak as a real actual pain. Another is how to mend a broken heart by Paul Mckenna, but its a bit deep and fragmented.