Loneliness

Blimey 42 and your lifes over? Max is 59 and he has met someone. I know your down in the dumps and it feels like it when U come out of a long term. In a while you will be right as rain. Honest. I was married for 12 years and looking back it was like a sentence. It didn't seem like it then of course but I am soooo pleased now. My life is mine again. Its not all drinking sessions and your life evens out a bit. Just be kind to yourself and dont do anything stupid like trying to get her back. Its over walk away. All the best Chris.

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Thanks for all of the advice people. I do feel a bit better now. I guess that I was wallowing in the insecurity of singleness. It's just the thought of trying to find someone new out there scares me to death.

I guess I should like you say, take it slow and see what happens.

Hi Ark,
My situation is the same as yours but I am a couple of months further down the line. Having a good drink is ok for now but like you said you need to look further ahead and find other things to do with your time. I joined the local gym and rugby club which helps to fill time on the weekend playing and the nights training. You could try somthing along these lines. You will find someone so dont be worried, try to enjoy the break and sort your feelings out and remember to try and take a little step forward each day. It's not easy but you have friends here always willing to help.
Guru

Also haha. U wont find the answer in the bottle. Its not there. I know I looked. Laters Chris.

Asides from feeling bloody lonely right now (this time of year doesn't help either, Bah Humbug! ) I'm finding it hard to deal with the fact that my STBX wife made sure that she had another relationship up and running before she gave our marriage the boot, so I'm left with the comforting thought of her snuggled in some other bloke's arms on Xmas Day whilst I'm trying really hard to act like it's a fun day in front of my sister's kids.

Oh well, time to listen to a nice depressing bit of Mud, methinks....

ToxieDogg wrote:

Asides from feeling bloody lonely right now (this time of year doesn't help either, Bah Humbug! ) I'm finding it hard to deal with the fact that my STBX wife made sure that she had another relationship up and running before she gave our marriage the boot, so I'm left with the comforting thought of her snuggled in some other bloke's arms on Xmas Day whilst I'm trying really hard to act like it's a fun day in front of my sister's kids.

Oh well, time to listen to a nice depressing bit of Mud, methinks....

All that glitter is not gold TD. They may have a massive water leak or could have been broken into. You never know. Some people relationship hop. Only problem is that they must have another one lined up and if they dont they are stuffed. Be happy in the thought that you reap what you sew in life. Best to get over this one before moving to the next.

I had this last xmas. I thought here I am home alone but it was not to bad. The way to beat "on my own" is to establish a routine. It all drops into place after a while. Chris