I am just divorce, and because my ex put herself in a poor financial position through her own doing by puting the proceeds of the FMH that i stupidly let her have, into a failing buisness i have been taken to the cleaners with spousal maintainance.
So when will i be able to AFFORD a new life????
Thanks it just seems a bit grim at the moment, just when i thought there was light at the end of the tunnel, but you are right,just got to look forward, besides i have seen people a lot worse off than me so what am i moaning about, i should take myself off and give myself a good talking to.
Of course there is life after div. Many divorcées go on to be very successful. The real crime is not to learn from it. I believe there is a reason for everything that happens to you. My div has made me a much tougher and more honest person. I am more attentive to people and I actually listen now. Sure its tough at the moment. I think life's like a game of poker. U have to play with cards that you have and fool everyone else in the game that you have a better hand then you got. But I am weird hehe. Chris.
i know there's a touch of bitterness in there somewhere, but heck, perhaps its deserved to some degree. i believe though it will dissipate like a bad stain. Hang in there mate, i know its bloody hell at the moment. My ex got herself hooked up to a Grand Master of bondage, makes me feel kinda inadequate in some area, not to mention emotionally disorientated. Please read my notes on site and tell me what you think. Fully supportive or not, i'd like to hear what you have to say. Thanks.
I feel for you i really do and i also feel it unfair that the ex has to pick up the pieces when they shouldn't have to. Don't forget when her situation changes you can reduce the payments and keep a close eye because if she gets another partner, you only have to pay her for the first 6 months they shack up together then you can stop it altogether.
I hope there is a bit of light at the end of your tunnel now,hold your head up and make sure whenever she sees you that you are smiling,this will grate on her believe me!!! Take care and good luck,Tigs