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Is there life after divorce ???

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25 Nov 07 #7626 by Tankerman
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Hi, There is life after divorce 'i know' i was married at 21 and it lasted 16 years and when we divorced my ex got everything the house the kids and i walked away with a suitcase,
18 years after that i met a beautiful young girl who loved me with total dedication and we lived together for 10 years then she asked me to marry her, at first i resisted because of the memories of the last marriage and i was 54 and she was 29 she persisted and i gave in we have been married now for 8 years.
In 2004 i had brain surgery to remove a brain tumor and have been off work since then in May this year she had an affair and left me and my 14 year old son.
She said she didn't want to be married to an old man, and left me I'm 62 now and on incapacity benefit and live on my own because she has taken our son to live with her saying that he should be with his mother.
So there is life after divorce but be carefull you don't know whats in the future

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25 Nov 07 #7631 by Altafica
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Oh Tanker........what a sad story, I hope that despite the trauma of major surgery and loosing you son and wife who you obviously loved, you are coping.
I know that it seems the older you are the less likely you are to find somebody new, but I struggle to understand that as if a marriage splits up there is then two "single" people.
How cold of her to say she didn’t want to be with an old man, you were an "older man" when she met and fell in love, and she still did it.
Sorry I should not be so presumptuous as I do not know the situation, but I have experience, and still are experience the hurt that divorce causes. I wish you all the best and hope you find somebody soon, that’s it your go there again

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25 Nov 07 #7636 by Camberwick green
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Oh that is a sad story, you are only as old as you feel (and usually the woman you're feeling ;)) there is life after divorce for everyone.

My Mum was made a widow a few years ago and after 37 years of marriage vowed never again, I feel it as much for her as I do you, she will not entertain another Man in her life, not because she was hurt but because she had already met her soulmate and she had seen and heard enough to put her off!

I admit my whole life has been about having what she had and I think i set my standards too high, but then why should I settle for less?

Hugs to you TM x

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25 Nov 07 #7639 by gone1
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Hi CG. U should set high standards and stick to them. It depends on how you value yourself. Nothing wrong with high standards at all. There are no such things as soulmates. There are plenty of good people out there. The bad ones spoil it for everyone. You tend to find a lot what you seek. Chris

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25 Nov 07 #7646 by Tankerman
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Hi, it is not over yet my wife wants the family home sold and she wants a 60/40 split and maintenance for our son making me homeless, she is only 37 and can find a new partner and they can buy another house on a mortgage, but at 62 what chance do i have of getting a mortgage, i don't drink and don't smoke i have always been a workaholic putting every penny earned in to my home and family. In march this year she talked me into cashing in my pension to build her a new kitchen saying that i didn't need it that she would always be here to look after me. I built the kitchen and i finished it with all the gadgets she picked in April in May she was gone not even using the kitchen once. I have sat here with pounding headaches and brain seizures alone for 3 years when she was at work and going out with the young girls from work to night clubs where she met her boyfriends. There is lots more but it would take to long to tell, and i dont want to bore you with all my problems.

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25 Nov 07 #7649 by Tankerman
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Tankerman wrote:[/
[/quote] You give but little when you give of your possessions, it is when you give yourself that you truly give.
Kahlil Gibran

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29 Nov 07 #8057 by gone1
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Hi Tankerman. Its a sad story but not uncommon one. It will be double hard on you. I married someone who was 10 years younger than me and the age gap was blatant. We didnt have that much in common. I knew her music but she didnt know mine. Now I would only go for someone my age. Its bad becuase you are not well. I bet you feel totaly alone and I feel for you mate. Keep your chin up. Its never as bad as it looks and every cloud has a silver lining. Chris

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