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22 Nov 07 #7347 by OBEs 1 canoodly
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Oh dear specialdad,

I don't think your first love would wish you to rush to her too soon knowing you have two lovely kids on this earth. Enjoy what you have now for as long as you can have it and be there for these two special earthlings you have created for as long as you will.......because once you join your first love you will be with her forever so I know she has time to wait for you and is probably guiding you now as we speak.......

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22 Nov 07 #7348 by OBEs 1 canoodly
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Oh dear specialdad,

I don't think your first love would wish you to rush to her too soon knowing you have two lovely kids on this earth. Enjoy what you have now for as long as you can have it and be there for these two special earthlings you have created for as long as you will.......because once you join your first love you will be with her forever so I know she has time to wait for you and is probably guiding you now as we speak.......

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22 Nov 07 #7350 by Specialdad
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Thank you Obe. :)

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22 Nov 07 #7377 by Camberwick green
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SD what a moving story, It is good that you have no fear of the finality of life but don’t be too desperate to leave.

I could have many times wished for the end and once I came close but my children were the ones who needed me and I eventually put things into perspective.

Your first love might not be your only true love, there is still a chance that the right one is around the corner and you can be happy and healthy with that person for the rest of your natural lives whether you meet up with your first love again or not at the end.

I truly hope you can find peace and happiness and share that with someone who deserves it as much as you.

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22 Nov 07 #7378 by gone1
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Camberwick green wrote:

I could have many times wished for the end and once I came close but my children were the ones who needed me and I eventually put things into perspective.
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Its funny that people want to off themselves as part of this. What pushes them to take there own lives? I sat in front of 10 pckts of 10mg Diazipamm and 10 pckts of 50mg Amatriptoline once. They were for my wifes condition. She was away with her Boyfriend and the kids so I was all alone for a week. What I didnt know was that amount of tablets would have killed me in minutes and I didnt need a week :)

I had the bottle of lambrini as well. But I had this overall feeling that I was going to be alright. And I put them back.

The weird thing is that a couple of months later I went to see a medium. He knew about the tablets and told me it wasnt my turn to die. Mind you I had enough in front of me to off the whole road haha. Chris

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22 Nov 07 #7380 by TMax
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Thank you all for such a nice response to this post, for this Ill bore with another of my writings from my web site heheheh

this is called:-

Why

Why do we do it, why do we build our walls in life to hide pain? Why do we build them high so only we can see out. Brick by brick. Piece by piece and let nobody in?

Yet inspite of us, along comes a day where slowly… it comes down, we take the walls we build, the walls we now break are all just pieces along life’s way.

The heart knows, the heart cares, the heart dares, dares to be free, dares to fly, we were scared to let it go, scared to try. So brick by brick, and piece by piece, the walls come tumbling down, and here we sit, watching, waiting.... and most of all, not hesitating…

... And yet

There now is that moment we all get, can you remember. The moment when we're singing along to a song and we know all the words because its one we really love, it’s the song that brings us a smile, you can hear the whole orchestral movement in your head. Each movement makes your heart sway and fly.

Then suddenly a train passes and a door closes, and you can't hear the music anymore, but you keep singing anyway… Then, when you can hear that song again, you're still perfectly in time with it. Well. Would you say that's what love is.

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22 Nov 07 #7388 by gone1
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Blimey. Such deep poetic prose delivered by a true Scot. Haha. In answer to the Why:

We build walls to protect ourselves with the belief that the will offer protection. They do not of course because we let people in. Its the ones inside that do the damage. So next time we do the same thing. Build the wall and let someone in and then they stab you in the back. Why do we do this? Keep repeating the same cycle again and again? Its because we are all living and want life. Its lonely behind the brick wall and we want someone to help us with the brick laying.

We are a bit like magpies. Magpies are not solo creatures like most birds. They pick a mate and they stay together until one of them is killed or dies. But the similarity ends there although some human couples stay together for life, this is rare.

If you want an answer to all this you have to look at peoples behavour. We are not really all that like magpies. Only as far as we are designed to be in pairs. Male - Female and so on. I wont go into the other combinations. Magpies do not aspire to much apart from breeding and a few shiney bits now and again. And this is our problem. As humans we aspire to a lot. We are in a bad relationship. Get another. Ditch the current person. But not until we have the new one up and running.

We are so busy looking over the wall we dont notice whats going on behind the wall. Thats my crap answer to the wonderful words of Max. Haha. Yea yea. Chris.

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