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30 Nov 07 #8197 by gone1
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I don't see her changing either and I know I deserve better treatment than that

What I keep thinking is that when I fall, my family and friends will make sure I land on my feet. When that silly moose falls, she'll fall flat on her arse. ;)

I won't be giving her a hand up either.[/quote]

Good words TD. You do deserve better. What goes around comes back around. Chris

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30 Nov 07 #8210 by ToxieDogg
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Thanks. It's not been an easy descision for me to come to because I still have very strong feelings for my STBX wife, but I also know that I'm much better off without her as well. There's no way in hell I could ever trust her again, even as a friend.

As for finding someone else, I do think that everything happens for a reason. I'd like the 'reason' to be that Jessica Alba had just moved to the UK and is in desparate need of a handsome, witty, soon to be divorced 30 year old Scouser to show her a good time but I'm probably barking up the wrong tree, lol.

Seriously though, I do think that the right girl is still out there waiting for me, and I would like to find her at some point.

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01 Dec 07 #8215 by TMax
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It does, I can tell you it does, even for ancient relics like me, bit of a suprise turn out but god a whole life better.

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01 Dec 07 #8231 by ark13112003
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Perhaps it's just me and a bit too new being on my own right now, but for me the loneliness of being on your own and the constant thought that you're over the hill in this 20's culture quite depressing.

Right now, I'd happily get involved in another relationship.

Ken

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01 Dec 07 #8233 by Camberwick green
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We are pack ‘animals’ by nature need company.

I spent a year on my own and was quite prepared to spend a lot more time like that too (although I had my kids for company its not quite the same) and my then BF (now x2b) flung himself on me and my family unit, when I told him he had to find somewhere else to live other than with me he ignored my pleas and stayed and it went form there, so I suppose it wasn’t the best start to a relationship anyway.

I love being with someone, I like being needed, but I love the companionship more, idle Adult chit chat, and of course the closeness of a relationship, I am a tactile person and the last 5 years I buried that after endless arguments about my needs when his were all being met.

We need someone who is prepared to give as much as they get and that’s the hard part.. People try hard at the beginning then the get comfortable…too comfortable!

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01 Dec 07 #8235 by zippy
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i'm only just starting this whole separation/divorce lark, and in a bizarre way I am quite looking forward to a bit of single life, I can finally do the things that i want to do/interest me that I stopped doing whilst being married.

I'm quite fortunate in that i like my own company but I sure as hell am not going to be rushing into another relationship,

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03 Dec 07 #8292 by gone1
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ark13112003 wrote:

Perhaps it's just me and a bit too new being on my own right now, but for me the loneliness of being on your own and the constant thought that you're over the hill in this 20's culture quite depressing.

Right now, I'd happily get involved in another relationship.

Ken


Ken its really not like that out there. There are loads like yourself alone and wanting someone. The very good news is that as people get older all the taboo's are gone and they generally know what they want. Just use this time to patch yourself up and get in touch with the person you once were. We all lose a bit of ourselves when we are with someone and now its time to get the old person back. Reinvent the old you! Best ones. Chris.

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