I am still going through the last part of my divorce.
Most days I do not think of my ex and if I do it is rarely with any emotion - other than I wish he would get his finger out! but then I do still think of her and with disgust - again infrequently.
And I feel it its time to move on. Now I never spent much time on the dating scene in the first place - I married my second boyfriend!! (fool!!)
However I have met a new man and I am finding it hard to trust him or is it to trust myself?
My new man has told me masses about his past relationships, slip ups etc. including bits he is not proud of.
How much should I expect to be told? I am trying hard not to dig deeper - when my stbx had his affair I found out via his email, pc and mobile. My new guy admits to having used adult contact sites as well as dating agencies (think I know the difference)and more wordly than me.
He says he doesn't want to look for anyone every again and that he wants to commit to me and marry me! (scary!!)
His friends also say the same about him.
My children think he is "awesome" and he gets on well with them.
But and there is a but I am terrified that he will lie to me and that this is a game to him. I have asked (ish) and have had the response that if I can't rust him there will be no future - but that he will wait.
Taylr14. This is just me. So take with a pinch. You dont need to be as paranoid as I am.
If I ever meet anyone I reserve the right to be able to go anywhere, be that phone, email or friends or what ever for information about that person. That person will have to know that I have trust issues. Provided that I can do that then I will feel happier. And I would keep an eye on that person. Not just now but always. Never have a PIN on the phone and I can look at the phone bill or what ever. I am not sure if you want to do this level of checking. But once bitten twice shy. I cant see anything wrong in snooping on someone. Not now. Not after what happened. Chris.