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Brother has seizure wife has no compassion!

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08 Mar 08 #16214 by Irishfirefighter762
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My brother had a seizure today he had a stoke about a year and a half ago and spent 72 day in the hospital. When I received the call to go, my wife(I have asked for a divorces and she said no she now has been living with her mother) was hear to get the dog for a vet appointment. She asked if I wonted her to go and I said yes. Off we went I thought my brother would be dead(not the biggest optimist at this time in my life).My brother an I are very close.

We got their and I went in the ambulances with him and my father( he is the fire chief/ emt and I am a firefighter/first responder) to the hospital. It was a very mild seizure and he was discharged within a few hours.

My wife rode over with my mother to the hospital and on the way over she wonted to talk about what was going on between me and her. I think that this was total inappropriate and how dare she try to make this time about her. She should have been consoling my mother and not making a stressful time more stress full. The reason my wife and I are split is because my wife has a addiction problem. She told my mother that she was doing everything she could to get better. My mothers only advise to her was to tell the truth in everything she dose.

While at the hospital I asked her if she wonted to come in to my brothers room and she said that she felt out of places. On the ride home she was in a very bad mood huffing and puffing. I had no interest in getting in to a fight about anything so I did not ask her what her problem was.

I am pissed I am so mad at her right now I cant believe in my brother moment of need that she would try and make it about her. I would like some advise on what to say to her. Do you think I am over reacting?

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08 Mar 08 #16230 by Fiona
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I think it's best to let matters like this go. Strange as it might seem your wife is probably upset by the divorce and isn't able to see past it so she isn't really emotionally available to anyone else just now.

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