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  • livinginhope
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27 Mar 12 #320330 by livinginhope
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She is being deliberately hurtful.She knows all men, and women too, would be very upset and belittled by being told they are crap in bed.
Just don''t let her win by internalising this nasty rubbish.
I used to be very weight conscious and a parting shot from a Partner who was dumping me was that I''d always been fat.He thought this would devastate me by picking on my weakness.Fortunately I was able to see how stupid and vile he was being.I weighed just over 8st at the time but if I''d not been ok with that weight he could have seriously dented my confidence.I''m not sure why people do this to others when they are leaving.They are making themselves look even worse but perhaps that''s what they are aiming for? A Clean Break in all senses.

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27 Mar 12 #320350 by new2newport
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samchik wrote:

Yes. He''s her son too Reddit.

If she did "intend" to hurt me with the first comment WR and LIH - she was successful. It makes me feel grossly inadequate...even embarrassed. :blush:

My ex wife was very very bad at it. I mean very bad. She gave up in the end. I never said anything about it.. It''s just petty.

Ignore it - the next woman you find will think your sliced bread... That will make you feel good again!

It''s just excuses to cover how they are feeling. It''s called Splitting, the physiological term for it. People would rather fire all their faults at someone else and say they are theirs than admit they have any.

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27 Mar 12 #320352 by hawaythelads
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Well the water works never worked in getting you to pay and find a flat for her to be with the new fella in.So she resorted to being a right bxtch to you and insulting you.
Surprised she never told you,you had a tiny cxck as well just.
Just tell her the sex wasn''t that satisfying because you''ve got a xxxx the size of a bucket you old xxxxx.
We can all be insulting you see just words innit.Unfortunately they tend to niggle.
All the best
Pete x

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28 Mar 12 #320374 by sillywoman
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mmmm, my ex always said sorry after we had had sex cos he was so shite!

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28 Mar 12 #320379 by hawaythelads
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So the woman who''s fed up with being a "slave" to you AND YOUR SON.Is going to want the kid in tow cramping her life because???
She used you to get out of her shxt life in Russia, she had a kid to seal the deal and give her financial leverage and all the time real plan was get onwards and upwards.
It''s only been 6 years she''s a fecking user divorce the using xxxx.Get custody of the kid.If you can.You gonna let her blackmail you forever through the kid?

All the best

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28 Mar 12 #320380 by freefalling
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Don''t listen to any of it. It is her way of making you conform to her unbelievable demands. Unfortunately, I hate to say it, but she does sound like she''s using you. BTW, women in general know that referring to your a particular male organ and your ability in bed is the best way of cutting a man down. It''s a cheap shot, so don''t worry about it. JJ is right with his comments. They want to appease their own conscience (that''s if they have one) or shift the blame so they can justify why they''re leaving to themselves. Don''t let her bully you. Take care.

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28 Mar 12 #320381 by Bobbinalong
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These are quite common comments from those that instigate leaving and end up with the other here.
It kind of covers their guilt, justifies their actions.
Thats all.
As for anything else, CM, thats all you may have to pay.
Its paid to the person named on the child support docs, and calc''d from there.
You may be paying her 15% of your net minus the overnights, but hey thats in her pot to pay her rent, she gets no more unless succesful in court, but depends on circumstances, ulikely.

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