Just thought I''d post this as these kind of stories seem to be rare.
A stranger started chatting to me while waiting at the bus stop.
He was going on about how the nice weather we''re having really raises everyone''s spirits.
I was sitting with a black cloud over my head and feeling grim and just kinda jokingly blurted out that I hadn''t really noticed since my wife left me a while back after 30 years together and I was having a "bad" day.
The chap, (in his 40''s) said, "Oh I''m so sorry...Actually my wife left me too... after 5 years of marriage.... Took my 3 year old son...I was devastated!... So I can understand exactly how you must be feeling...
However, in my case, she came back after a year... That was 10 years ago...We''ve got two more kids now... two girls... 3 and 7...and we''re really happy.."
Nice to hear the occassional happy ending in all this bloody gloom and doom...
Yeah...I was quite surprised and asked him how that happened.
He said " Well..anytime I saw her I always made sure I looked good...always spoke calmly, smiled and kept the conversation light and friendly, never spoke about us or the marriage and showed her that I accepted the marriage was over."
He kinda gave me a wink and a smile.
Just then his bus pulled up and he shook my hand and wished me good luck.
That''s so nice. But I''m wondering really how you can ever put the emotional turmoil behind you and forgive and forget the pain that is caused by a separation and divorce. It''s the worst thing i''ve ever gone through, a bit like grief. That man must have been a saint to take her back.
Look at it this way - get yourself fit and healthy, spend time on you, maybe a couple of hobbies, a short holiday, look up old friends and relatives, that sort of thing. Show yourself a new independent you, that is attractive to most people.
Then if she comes back, you will be a new desirable person to her, however, you may find that if she does want to come back, you no longer want her.