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newly dating - when to do the horizontal rumba??

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10 Apr 12 #322829 by soglad
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Been divorced for 5 years -hurray
Single for the 5 years--hurray
had a friendship bonk or two a few years back --hurray
dated a bit but no-one I wanted to get to know better--also fine

now the dilemma, recently returned to internet dating and met a really lovely guy a few weeks back, own hair, teeth, house, job, attractive and funny. Had a few dates and a great snog and fumble - marvellous.

Now my ''problem'' is that most every text of his refers to getting physically intimate and I feel like he''s pushing the agenda around sex whereas I want to take it slowly.

I''m no prude and am comfortable in my sexuality including no strings attached sex but I don''t want that from him or anyone at this point in my life. Not sure how to deal with this. Instead of enjoying his company I feel like I''m trying to deflect his conversations to less carnal topics. When we are sat in a pub it''s great. He listens, chats, shares and is attentive. When he texts it''s all about the sex.

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10 Apr 12 #322839 by pixy
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The answer is easy - when you want to. Sounds a dodgy sort of bloke to me though. Have you asked him to stop sending suggestive texts? If not do so and see how he reacts.

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10 Apr 12 #322842 by Triste en France
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If you''ve got as far as a fumble, I suppose it''s not unreasonable for him to want to take it further. Keep an open mind, you might enjoy it - if not, don''t do it.

Good luck - lucky you!


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10 Apr 12 #322843 by soglad
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Yeah, he has eased off now-i genuinely think he believes them to be flattering to me whereas I know he fancies my body and am more interested to know whether he fancies the rest I have to offer! Maybe it''s a guy v girl thing.

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10 Apr 12 #322857 by hawaythelads
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Just tell him to leave off the sex texts and pushing it.
You''re not giving it out anytime in the near future and you''ll be more likely to bin him if he keeps pressurising you.
And besides i need the commitment of a wedding ring so i can at least get half your house off you before I give you the key to the chastity belt fella and even then don''t be expecting no bj''s either because the wedding cake will well and truly have brought on my allergy to them :blink:
That should do it.
His Royal Hawayness
agony Aunt extraordinaire :blink:

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