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The affair script

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28 Apr 12 #326912 by u6c00
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Hi everyone who has a heartbreaking story to tell on here. I have one too (same script of course, similar to everyone else).

I just wanted to say to the original poster that pretty much everyone on this forum has of course gone through a separation. For this reason you will largely get the same answer: dump him.

I''m not going to tell you not to, I ended up with a similar situation, one sided reconciliation which inevitably failed. In the end I realised that I just wasn''t in love any more, and worse than not being in love, I didn''t even like my ex any more. Once I had decided to end it (although I wasn''t in a position to ''throw her out''), I found this article enormously helpful in convincing me that I made the right decision: www.wikihow.com/Rebuild-Your-Spouse''s-Trust-After-an-Affair
I realised that my ex was doing none of the things that she could have to rebuild trust.

I am less than 6 months on, and although I am still in pain and dealing with an acrimonious separation, I am convinced that I did the right thing, and that I am happier now than I have been in several years (although I am definitely more stressed!)

That said, it is possible for couples to work things out and survive an affair, it''s just that you probably won''t meet any of them on a site for divorce advice! If you are undecided about which route to take for the future, I would urge you to seek advice in more than one place to get a more balanced view.

I really hope things work out for you, with whichever route you take.

To all the people who found the strength to leave your cheating ex''s, congratulations, and I hope we all end up finding the right fit in the future.

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28 Apr 12 #326913 by startagain
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Yes me to had the "script"

I would "help him on his way"

I though I could stop it happening! I am now very grateful of not being able to! A life without the drama, the lies, the abuse, the blame and the cheating is very good indeed!

The golden rule of all this is think as bout yourself

Take care

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